[Fraugoofy]

Sometimes it is just a matter of having a pleasant conversation with your neighbor about how people can live together in harmony. Seek first to understand and maybe you in turn will be understood, too.

[DonH57]

The suggestion of using a wireless headset sounds nice, especially if you could convince them it would benefit them as well. Wireless headphones also eliminate background noise too.

[BobnBev]

Buy a universal remote that will control HIS T.V.

[kcrazorbackfan]

Originally Posted by Villager Joyce

This week there was a thread about wind chimes. The OP of that thread started a thread a few months ago about frog noise. You have a neighbor with a loud TV on the lanai. The thing I see is how this bothers you and is taking over. Your neighbor isn't going to change so what can you do to make it work for you? Can you change your setup and sleep in another room? Are there trees or hedges that might block out the noise? No, it isn't fair, but the alternative is you allow this to grow in you like a cancer and the offending person doesn't care.

Frog noise? Seriously? What was the issue with frogs and what did they want done? Wow.....

[Nursebarb1]

So unfortunate. You didn;t sign up for this When we bought there was a sand pile behind us, and now we have a kissing lanai, too. We are snowbirds and soon to be Frogs. Will see what happens.

[Barefoot]

Originally Posted by Nursebarb1

So unfortunate. You didn;t sign up for this When we bought there was a sand pile behind us, and now we have a kissing lanai, too. We are snowbirds and soon to be Frogs. Will see what happens.

If you paid a premium for a privacy lot, then you probably have legal recourse.

[Greg Nelson]

This is of major concern with us too. We are snowbirds that are currently renting in Quail Ridge. The unit is at the end of the street and has the 4th hole of the Lopez in the back yard. Very quiet and peaceful. We'd never rent a unit that you could share a grill with the neighbor. IMHO lot sizes are often not big enough..

[HimandMe]

We too ran a busy resort. IMHO speak clearly with compassion for his sense of hearing loss, but also your needs for quiet. Come with solutions not merely complaints eg. Walmart has a headset for $ that would work or....
This way you could hear, we could have quiet and become good friends and neighbors...

If this fails which it probably won't on your second visit..contact the powers that be with your real problem.
Yes, the lots are small. I love hardly any lawn to care for but occasionally this kind of drawback shows up. We had the exact same thing in Fort Myers....lovely people..loud lanai TV and every time we went out to our pool, they thought it was time to socialize with them.

[mtdjed]

Your original post was titled "Wonder Why". The answer is that they have no reason to care. You have got to give them a reason to care. Friendship or helpfulness might be a way. Complaints likely raise the defenses. Any room for a nice thick hedge row?

[Bonnevie]

I agree with suggesting they use closed captioning. I find I need to use it myself for some shows.

[JoMar]

Or buy them the headset as a present.

[Greg Nelson]

I'd be willing to bet these older folks would not take to the headsets. Privacy is at a premium

[Grandfinch]

Inconsiderate is to some like intolerant is to others.
I don't smoke, but both my back neighbors do.
One has a barking dog.

I knew coming in that all of the above comes with living in close contact to others.

If you don't like having people close by, try country living. It is unreasonable to ask your neighbors to adapt to your lifestyle. The Villages is known world wide as a drinking, partying, active community.

[greg&sueby]

i am not saying i want to move for privacy, to land or otherwise, your stating the villages is a drinking and partying community is true, however common sense should be used. If you were partying at 2 or 3 in the morning, on your lanai, or left your barking dog on your lanai all day while you were gone, the excuse that we are a fun, partying place does not fly. My question was, why do some people just not seem to care about the feelings or rights of others. There are unwritten rules to live by, not everything should be in a rule book, as i say just common sense, think how you would react with the shoe on your foot. If you use that yardstick
and apply it to what you do, it would be easier on everyone.

[Villager Joyce]

I will answer your question this time. Last time I tried to give suggestions on how to live with the situation, but now I understand that isn't what you were asking. My answer: (1) rules don't apply to everyone because some people are special; (2) people generally think it is someone else that people are complaining about, not them; and (3) some people don't give a hoot.