[eweissenbach]

If one participates on any chat site and gives an opinion on anything, there will be someone or many who have differing opinions. In expressing their differing opinions they may well do so inartfully, or sometimes with malice. If you tend to take those responses personally, or you are the kind that gets easily hurt, you should either stay off the forums or just peruse, or respond to those which are innocuous and don't offer the potential for strong differing opinions. Personally, i don't mind mixing it up with people that have different opinions as long as it doesn't become personal, but some people are not as thick-skinned as I. Life is tough enough without intentionally putting yourself in position to suffer. I know it can occasionally get nasty on this or any other site, but this one is well moderated, and comparatively mild.

[buggyone]

We have all met some people personally from TOTV and I am sure everyone agrees they are great folks. I met a couple of posters from the Political Forum and stayed friends with them even though our political views are 180 degrees apart.

Yes, there are some mean spirited people on the forum but I really do not think many (if any) of those are Villagers but just trollers from outside The Villages who are basically jealous of what we have here.

[Carl in Tampa]

Originally Posted by dillywho

A little levity here:

"To be sure of hitting the target, shoot first and call whatever you hit the target."

In that spirit, I give you:

"Oh dear, I've missed you," she said to her husband, as she raised the pistol and fired again.

[Monkei]

I don't know that I would use the word "fun". 8 would use the word "boring", I find that as soon as a subject gets argumentative regardless what it might be about, the moderators cut off the discussion so we can all continue to live in la la land. To me this place has become nothing more than a place for me to see what restaurants are good or bad, what's for sale, and who give good golf lessons. Nothing more.

Argumentative is very healthy as long as it is not used in a personal nature.

[jhrc4]

Originally Posted by kittygilchrist

that eyeball of yours is creepy. that's just gotta. or you could show me some electronic stuff and I might let it go at that.

I couldn't agree with you more, What on earth is the deal with the "Eyeball", it is very, very creepy.

On a lighter subject want a laugh check out the posting " Village Construction Ongoing " it will definitely put things into perspective.

[jhrc4]

Originally Posted by Cisco Kid

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What's with the EYEBALL ???

[jhrc4]

Originally Posted by 2BNTV

I have notices several instances of great people who have left TOTV, because they were attacked and were being picked-on. Therefore, it has stopped being fun, for some people.

Where are the happy posters, who like to share their jokes and humor?

What's the funniest thing, you have seen on TOTV?

We all know this is a great site for getting together and sharing ideas, that will save you time and money. The admin's do a great job, but why do some posters feel a need to put others down? One reason maybe, is they feel by putting someone else down, they become elevated in their own eyes.

What benefit does one derive, by hurting others feeling?

Isn't GOD's second greatest commandment, "to love one another as I have loved you". We should all be here, to help one another.

Off soapbox...... flame away.... as I was just sayin.......

Check out the thread, " Village Construction Ongoing " humor is alive and well:

[red tail]

you cant post controversial stuff and not get the same in return.

[Cisco Kid]

Originally Posted by CFrance

Yeah, Cisco... is that eye a selfie?

eye see.

I guess I could try some other body part.

[senior citizen]

Originally Posted by 2BNTV

I have notices several instances of great people who have left TOTV, because they were attacked and were being picked-on. Therefore, it has stopped being fun, for some people.

Where are the happy posters, who like to share their jokes and humor?

What's the funniest thing, you have seen on TOTV?

We all know this is a great site for getting together and sharing ideas, that will save you time and money. The admin's do a great job, but why do some posters feel a need to put others down? One reason maybe, is they feel by putting someone else down, they become elevated in their own eyes.

What benefit does one derive, by hurting others feeling?

Isn't GOD's second greatest commandment, "to love one another as I have loved you". We should all be here, to help one another.

Off soapbox...... flame away.... as I was just sayin.......

Between the cruel juvenile "adults" on Topix, who also supposedly post on TOTV and certain p.m.'s I have received, I would tend to agree that the "fun" has dimmed a bit.

Where is people's tolerance for different writing styles?

WHY DO SOME PEOPLE ALWAYS PUT OTHER PEOPLE DOWN?

Answer:
It comes from insecurities, they feel down themselves so to make themselves feel better they knock other people down. They feel bigger then, or if they are in a relationship they feel like they have control of the other person and make them insecure so they will not leave.

If it's a group of people bringing one person down, it's to look big in front of the other people, BUT it just means they are smaller.


My thoughts are that people who go out of their way to put others down; want to bring that person down to their level. They don't feel good about themselves. So they make fun or ridicule others to in some sick way make themselves feel better. It must really sap energy to be them, they must be miserable to spend any amount of time trying to make others feel bad, or judging others is a total waste of useful energy.


It still amazes me that people can be so rude and mean to others. I think that sometimes people who are very insecure will put others down because it redirects the focus onto someone else and takes it away from their own shortcomings. Also, I feel that when people put others down, sometimes it makes them feel superior to some degree. What I mean is that when they are making someone else feel bad about something, it probably makes themselves feel like they are "better" than the person they are putting down. It probably keeps them going day to day, so they won't have to confront their own shortcomings and insecurities. Does any of that make sense? I think it is so very sad. Just like you, I also like to try to always make a positive difference with each person I'm with. I will make a point of saying something nice to them, compliment them on something, or something like that. I like to make people feel happy inside. I like to know that they can feel comfortable when around me.


I think the reason this happens is because they have to knock someone else down to build themselves up. In grade school, if you can get your friends to laugh when you make fun of someone, you start thinking you're pretty cool. Unfortunately, that carries on and some people never grow up. I always want to take the side of the underdog...they are usually alot nicer and have more to offer than the few who put them down.


******Some people are actually raised this way. Usually their parents will be really messed up. I met a few people like this and got to know them. they have BIG issues with their parents. their parents usually feel bad about themselves and build the kids up to be tyrants by using a lot of lies and pressure. The kids want to stay on top somehow and feel in control so they dominate other kids, just like their parents dominate them. a lot of sadness in those type of homes.


Because, they think that they can never achieve what you can... They want to be that someone. They want to look like that someone... If ever they find a weakness... They will feel good about it and think... "Hey we are not different... he is a klutz, too!" They are like people who never became who they can be... they lost their potential when they put barriers... They are the ones who stopped themselves... and since they can't you can't too... but once you do... they will look for something bad about the person...

What you are is great! Do not mind the people who bring others down... because it is part of your own greatness that they will follow after you, so hold on to it... you will eventually bring them to release their light within...


*******Dorothy Louise Law Nolte was a trained family counselor (who also founded a kindergarten, taught parenting and childbirth classes, and was a published writer), Law in the mid-1950s wrote a poem, "Children Learn What They Live," as a submission for her family-matters column in California’s The Torrance Herald.

Now, more than 50 years later, her simple words still serve as something of a guidepost:




If a child lives with cricism, he learns to condemn…


If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight…


If a child lives with fear, he learns to be apprehensive…


If a child lives with pity, he learns to feel sorry for himself…


If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy…


If a child lives with jealousy, he learns to feel guilt…


But…


If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient…


If a child lives with encouragement, he learns to be confident…


If a child lives with praise, he learns to be appreciative…


If a child lives with acceptance, he learns to love…


If a child lives with honesty, he learns what truth is…


If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice…


If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith in himself and those about him…


If a child lives with friendliness, he learns the world is a nice place in which to live.


With what is your child living?


The piece was translated into 35 languages. Nearly 20 years after she wrote it, Law discovered it was being distributed by a baby food manufacturer. She then copyrighted it, but allowed the company to continue to use her words for free.


In the late 1990s, the piece was published as a book, with each line in the poem serving as the subject of a chapter. In 2005, it became a bestseller when Crown Prince Naruhito likened the book to his guide for raising his daughter, Princess Aiko.


Although Dorothy Louise Law Nolte died in 2005, her sentiment, her wisdom in these simple words, can live on through the lessons and values we teach our children.