[DianeM]

Seriously arcane rules. Glad that era is done.

[graciegirl]

I kind of think that in a primarily golf community where there is mostly casual dining, a gentleman may keep on his golf hat after his round and wear it while dining. Women similarly wear their visors to lunch.


But a man never wears a hat in church.

[mixsonci]

Basically, who cares, really, if someone is wearing a hat? Why should that bother anyone? Are we really all held to silly mundane standards now, who says, Emily Post? Who cares really. It's a free country, do what you want as long as you don't hurt or bother others. If you want to wear a hat, wear a darn hat, if you want to wear bright hot pink lipstick, wear it or if you want to dye your hair purple (Like Kelly Osborne) dye it?

[dillywho]

I am not bothered by the hats (am definitely of the era that taught that), but am extremely bothered by the disrespect for our flag. I quit going to some of the parades because of the ones too disrespectful and lazy to honor the passing of the colors. The flag does not have to be borne by the military to be honored. Many do not stand, do not remove their hats, and do not interrupt their conversations for those few seconds. I have noticed some of the gentlemen in wheelchairs struggle to a standing position and I truly applaud them. Not everyone is able to do that and I totally understand, but they do remove their hats, etc. The ones I take issue with are the physically able who show zero respect.

[batman911]

Originally Posted by mixsonci

Basically, who cares, really, if someone is wearing a hat? Why should that bother anyone? Are we really all held to silly mundane standards now, who says, Emily Post? Who cares really. It's a free country, do what you want as long as you don't hurt or bother others. If you want to wear a hat, wear a darn hat, if you want to wear bright hot pink lipstick, wear it or if you want to dye your hair purple (Like Kelly Osborne) dye it?

How about if I sit at the next table and belch and picks their nose (and I could name more)? Is that OK with you as well. After all, I is a free country.

[BarryRX]

Originally Posted by buggyone

From the 1895 Book of Social Rules no doubt?

Common courtesy on the men's hat removal at ANY dining establishment. Any man keeping his on in a dining establishment is a crude lout. 'Nuff said.

No, some are from the late 1950's and early 1960's. I can well remember when my Mom was refused entry to a restaurant on Long Island because she was wearing slacks. I have posted on a similar thread that I quickly learned to remove my hat indoors when in the Army, so I am one of those that removes his hat when inside. I just don't think that a man who keeps his hat on in a restaurant is a "crude lout". I long ago gave up the position of "general manager of the universe", and personally know some smart, kind, giving men who don't always remove their hats, and I prefer to judge them by those qualities.

[Cheryl]

Lol

[mixsonci]

Originally Posted by batman911

How about if I sit at the next table and belch and picks their nose (and I could name more)? Is that OK with you as well. After all, I is a free country.

I also said as long as you are not bothering anyone else, so if you want to be just plain rude and disgusting, then go ahead and pick your nose and belch, you are free to do so, but you will also sit alone, so eat up

[eweissenbach]

Originally Posted by mixsonci

Basically, who cares, really, if someone is wearing a hat? Why should that bother anyone? Are we really all held to silly mundane standards now, who says, Emily Post? Who cares really. It's a free country, do what you want as long as you don't hurt or bother others. If you want to wear a hat, wear a darn hat, if you want to wear bright hot pink lipstick, wear it or if you want to dye your hair purple (Like Kelly Osborne) dye it?

Originally Posted by batman911

How about if I sit at the next table and belch and picks their nose (and I could name more)? Is that OK with you as well. After all, I is a free country.

Originally Posted by mixsonci

I also said as long as you are not bothering anyone else, so if you want to be just plain rude and disgusting, then go ahead and pick your nose and belch, you are free to do so, but you will also sit alone, so eat up

Lol. Response of the day!

[beachx4me]

Originally Posted by Abster

I'm from Virginia where many of us pride ourselves on etiquette and manners. We were all taught at a young age that you do not wear a hat in side. Period. You can leave it in your cart or car. I just assume nowadays most people don't know any better.

I am also from Virginia and yes, boys were taught at a young age to take off their hats. These days people tend to leave them on. This doesn't bother me so much as all the cursing (not nice words) you seem to hear in public. It seems to be in general conversation just "cussing" away, and sometimes it isn't always the real young folks either (older ones are guilty too). It makes me wonder what happened in the manners department for these folks. I am in my mid fifties and I can't believe how people conduct themselves in public like this, especially within earshot of children.

Just my little rant!!

[Shimpy]

Originally Posted by Abster

I'm from Virginia where many of us pride ourselves on etiquette and manners. We were all taught at a young age that you do not wear a hat in side. Period. You can leave it in your cart or car. I just assume nowadays most people don't know any better.

Is Virginia the standard for the world???......What would they say in Virginia to men wearing shorts in restaurants? Rules and customs change thru the years and we need to accept the new. I've been in Fla. for over 60 years and it has always been a casual atmosphere. I remember my uncle visiting in the early 50's from Pittsburgh and always wearing a suit everywhere he went and getting stares. Wearing baseball style caps indoors is now ok as far as I can see except in high class restaurants. Going to Cody's for a beer and wings.......no problem.

[CathyandJohn]

Pardon me for inserting my two cents, but I personally believe there are worse things going on everywhere without beating down men who chose to wear their hat in a restaurant! Each to his own, most men who live here are retired and have earned the right to chose what they do with their hats. If it offends others they have a right to ask to be seated in another area. I say time to move on to something really important to those who live here.

[beachx4me]

Well I do declare, hats on or off - I say do what feels best for you. As for shorts, I can assure you that both men and women wear them everywhere in VA!!!

Now what else exciting is happening around here???

[nitehawk]

Originally Posted by Abster

I'm from Virginia where many of us pride ourselves on etiquette and manners. We were all taught at a young age that you do not wear a hat in side. Period. You can leave it in your cart or car. I just assume nowadays most people don't know any better.

I'm from Texas - where we love our hats -- in or out