[mixsonci]

Originally Posted by 784caroline

Why should it matter? You made assumptions without really knowing the facts..and on-line or in social media that dangerous! Does it matter if you are black, white or asian or whatever? In on-line chat rooms people become too close to people they really dont know....and this is how they get in trouble. WE share information on-line but is it truth, lies, or something in between. Would a post made on this board have more meaning if you knew it was from a male or female or does the post stand on its own and survive scruitiny!

I think over a period of time you learn which posters like to spread rumors, or tell 1/2 truths or just stir up the pot!! The Crispers monthly meetings do serve a purpose to put a face to a screen name, and we all have found other ways to meet and greet people from TOTV. I have welcomed and enjoyed all the people I have met from TOTV.....including graciegirl. But we should all remember NEVER believe anything is true simply because it is posted on TOTV or any other social network.....or moreso because you simply assume it.

Lighten up, male or female, nobody's asking you to give out your vital statistics. You are either one or the other. Really, what secrets are you disclosing? If that bothers you, then don't answer.

[JB in TV]

My parents had 2 kids, a boy and a girl. I have a sister.

[Polar Bear]

Originally Posted by JB in TV

My parents had 2 kids, a boy and a girl. I have a sister.

Ooh. Reminds me a bit of one of my favorite riddles...

A man looks at a portrait on the wall and says, “Brothers and sisters I have none, but this man’s father is my father’s son." Who's portrait is it?

(I know...I know...off topic. I just wanted to lend a little levity to this topic. )

[Villages PL]

What if someone says, "My parents had 2 boys and 2 girls; I have a sister."?

[CFrance]

Originally Posted by mixsonci

Lighten up, male or female, nobody's asking you to give out your vital statistics. You are either one or the other. Really, what secrets are you disclosing? If that bothers you, then don't answer.

Originally Posted by JB in TV

My parents had 2 kids, a boy and a girl. I have a sister.

Originally Posted by Polar Bear

Ooh. Reminds me a bit of one of my favorite riddles...

A man looks at a portrait on the wall and says, “Brothers and sisters I have none, but this man’s father is my father’s son." Who's portrait is it?

(I know...I know...off topic. I just wanted to lend a little levity to this topic. )

Yes, I believe this thread was started as a fun, lighthearted project. Love Polar's & JB's responses.

I am a girly girl. My avatar is a boy. Or was...

[Bonny]

Well, I guess my avatar gives me away. I'm a guy in drag !

[Villages PL]

Originally Posted by 784caroline

Why should it matter? You made assumptions without really knowing the facts..and on-line or in social media that dangerous! Does it matter if you are black, white or asian or whatever? In on-line chat rooms people become too close to people they really dont know....and this is how they get in trouble. WE share information on-line but is it truth, lies, or something in between. Would a post made on this board have more meaning if you knew it was from a male or female or does the post stand on its own and survive scruitiny!

I think over a period of time you learn which posters like to spread rumors, or tell 1/2 truths or just stir up the pot!! The Crispers monthly meetings do serve a purpose to put a face to a screen name, and we all have found other ways to meet and greet people from TOTV. I have welcomed and enjoyed all the people I have met from TOTV.....including graciegirl. But we should all remember NEVER believe anything is true simply because it is posted on TOTV or any other social network.....or moreso because you simply assume it.

Caroline, you made some excellent points. I'm sorry that some have felt the need to harass you for speaking your mind.

[Tennisnut]

Originally Posted by Chi-Town

Interesting article:

Iranians escape lashing for dancing in 'Happy' video

Thanks ChiTown. Even Iranian President Hassan Rouhani is recognizing that as the world becomes physically smaller, it becomes emotionally, culturally and intellectually smaller.

[CFrance]

Originally Posted by Bonny

Well, I guess my avatar gives me away. I'm a guy in drag !

I've seen this guy in restaurants around town!!

[CFrance]

Originally Posted by Villages PL

Caroline, you made some excellent points. I'm sorry that some have felt the need to harass you for speaking your mind.

Perhaps because of the snarky, accusatory way it was stated? "What does it matter" and "You made assumptions without knowing the facts..."

If you wish to differ with someone, how about starting with "I disagree with you because..." or "I believe you might not know all the facts."

Also, when a thread is started in a seemingly lighthearted way--no lecture, no digging in--ignoring the flavor of the post in favor of a drubbing puts others off. If the thread were something accusatory, all bets are off.

[Villages PL]

Originally Posted by CFrance

Perhaps because of the snarky, accusatory way it was stated? "What does it matter" and "You made assumptions without knowing the facts..."

If you wish to differ with someone, how about starting with "I disagree with you because..." or "I believe you might not know all the facts."

Also, when a thread is started in a seemingly lighthearted way--no lecture, no digging in--ignoring the flavor of the post in favor of a drubbing puts others off. If the thread were something accusatory, all bets are off.

I just wanted to even things out a bit. You came to Graciegirl's rescue as though she wouldn't be able to defend herself. So I thought I would give Caroline the benefit of the doubt, even though I don't know her, that she had good reason to post exactly what she posted.

I didn't think Caroline's remarks were snarky. I think it's just that she has had different experiences with online posting.

[CFrance]

Originally Posted by Villages PL

I just wanted to even things out a bit. You came to Graciegirl's rescue as though she wouldn't be able to defend herself. So I thought I would give Caroline the benefit of the doubt, even though I don't know her, that she had good reason to post exactly what she posted.

I didn't think Caroline's remarks were snarky. I think it's just that she has had different experiences with online posting.

Fair enough, but I wasn't taking issue with what she posted; rather the choice of words.

[Moderator]

Please remember to stay ON TOPIC.

Moderator

[CFrance]

In my opinion, on topic would be commenting on whether you're a girl or a boy, not whether or not it's appropriate to ask the question to begin with. I remain a girl

[gerryann]

I find this a very appropriate topic. Gracie always starts appropriate topics. If anyone feels it's not...there's no need to respond.

I'm female. Name is Gerry. My entire life it has been mispronounced. When in Dr's office's they ALWAYS come out and ask for Gary, or Mr....
Every summer, I always received details from school about the upcoming football season. I was always assigned to the boys gym class.

After moving here, I decided to use Gerry Ann.....even though everyone who knows me calls me Gerry. My mom named me that after my dad.....then went on to have 3 boys...so she could have waited and given them the name. Oh well....so I guess I am a female with a males name.