[SMills]

I read your post today, a little late, but nevertheless it caught my eye. I too am having some of the same feelings you experienced about moving. I have been in my home for 40 years and at the end of this year I will retire, start downsizing in hopes of moving to TV the first part of next year. Leaving my home will be a big challenge and change for me as well and I felt your pain while I read your posts. We bought our home back in 1973, raised our son, saw his marriage and the arrival of our granddaughters, a good number of family pets both cats, dogs and I believe there was even a frog in their at some point. Seven years ago, my husband died in that house, in the livingroom with me bye his side. I've been alone in that house for the past seven years with all the memories and the "what if's" if things had been different. Now, God has blessed me with the gift of a wonderful man and the promise of a new life. I'm trying very hard to take advantage of that gift and the promise of happiness leaving my old life behind, not an easy task as I am sure you well know. Today has been a tough day for me, memories of my late husband and our life together keep coming into my mind, I've had tears more than once today, crazy how those days just pop up out of the blue. I say all this in hopes that you can identify with someone who is walking in your shoes, so that you will know that you are not alone with the memories, but also the opportunity for a wonderful new life, full of hope and promise. Here's hoping to meet you at some point in TV, share a glass of wine and share some of our memories . . . God Bless!

[Jejuca]

Diane - I'm glad you are feeling better. We are returning to TV tomorrow. Let's get together and talk!

[DianeM]

Originally Posted by SMills

I read your post today, a little late, but nevertheless it caught my eye. I too am having some of the same feelings you experienced about moving. I have been in my home for 40 years and at the end of this year I will retire, start downsizing in hopes of moving to TV the first part of next year. Leaving my home will be a big challenge and change for me as well and I felt your pain while I read your posts. We bought our home back in 1973, raised our son, saw his marriage and the arrival of our granddaughters, a good number of family pets both cats, dogs and I believe there was even a frog in their at some point. Seven years ago, my husband died in that house, in the livingroom with me bye his side. I've been alone in that house for the past seven years with all the memories and the "what if's" if things had been different. Now, God has blessed me with the gift of a wonderful man and the promise of a new life. I'm trying very hard to take advantage of that gift and the promise of happiness leaving my old life behind, not an easy task as I am sure you well know. Today has been a tough day for me, memories of my late husband and our life together keep coming into my mind, I've had tears more than once today, crazy how those days just pop up out of the blue. I say all this in hopes that you can identify with someone who is walking in your shoes, so that you will know that you are not alone with the memories, but also the opportunity for a wonderful new life, full of hope and promise. Here's hoping to meet you at some point in TV, share a glass of wine and share some of our memories . . . God Bless!

I'm so sorry that you're having a tough day - they do hit now and then. I do COMPLETELY understand that some days are hard. If you feel like crying - that's okay - it's good for the soul to let it go. Many folks don't understand that it's a part of life to be sad and haunted at times. Its just the way that life is meant to be lived. If we were supposed to be numb all the time, we could just as well be androids. Good for you that you have the opportunity to create a new life. I am trying to do the exact same thing. Whether this will all work remains to be seen but life is meant to be about adventures. If the path is wrong, we can always change directions.

I'm a red wine person - LOL. All the best !!!!

[DougB]

Don't dwell in the past and don't fear the future. Live in the now. There is a reason it is called the present. It is a gift.

[kittygilchrist]

Well said, Doug, I was just checking up on you. You did good.

[DianeM]

Originally Posted by Jejuca

Diane - I'm glad you are feeling better. We are returning to TV tomorrow. Let's get together and talk!

Sounds like a plan to me. See you soon.

[DianeM]

Originally Posted by DougB

Don't dwell in the past and don't fear the future. Live in the now. There is a reason it is called the present. It is a gift.

I agree with you but once in a while the past sneaks back up and bites you on the bottom and yells "remember me".

[ronsroni]

Originally Posted by dianem

tomorrow would mark the 30th anniversary of the first house i bought in bellerose, ny. I would be able to have a mortgage burning ceremony and be proud of paying off my house. Selling that house was the biggest mistake of my life. That was the last place i was truly happy. I doubt i will ever have peace again until my toes are pointing up.

did you know the yellen's???

[sharonga]

So glad something worked Diane. I was insane when we were selling our house in Staten Island. Long story. We have been here one year and 2 months. No ones story is the same but it helps to find friends that REALLY care. Concentrate on the ones that really care, they will help you. Oh and when you are ready for the girls lunch, please include me, I could use it too.

[DianeM]

Originally Posted by ronsroni

did you know the yellen's???

'Fraid not. Sorry.

[DianeM]

Originally Posted by sharonga

So glad something worked Diane. I was insane when we were selling our house in Staten Island. Long story. We have been here one year and 2 months. No ones story is the same but it helps to find friends that REALLY care. Concentrate on the ones that really care, they will help you. Oh and when you are ready for the girls lunch, please include me, I could use it too.

Sounds like a plan. Many seem to be drifting too.

[DianeM]

Originally Posted by ronsroni

did you know the yellen's???

Did you know the Cunningham's in Williston Park?

[Parker]

Originally Posted by DianeM

Thank you but that's not for me. I do not wish to be medicated through life. I do not wish to take pills to "even out life ". I believe that on the days one is sad that it's okay to be sad. Feeling and emotions are part of life.

I fear my post may have offended you. To clarify, I agree that far too many people medicate their lives to 'even it out', and was not suggesting that route for you. My point was that IF someone finds themselves in a true depression, not just a blue mood, discussing it with a counselor can really help to clarify and redirect ones thoughts. A close family member of mine, years ago suffered a real depression, saw a psychologist for a short time without medication, and has never had a return of the depression.

If this does not apply to you, I'm very glad.

[patfla06]

I'm sorry you're feeling bad.
Moving is very hard. You moved from New York and that's a
BIG move. You moved from the familiar to a very new and
different place.
Allow yourself the time for your feelings and know there
are better days ahead.
Just look at the outpouring of concern here.
Just know we have all been there and all have those days.
Hope each day gets easier.

[DianeM]

Originally Posted by Parker

I fear my post may have offended you. To clarify, I agree that far too many people medicate their lives to 'even it out', and was not suggesting that route for you. My point was that IF someone finds themselves in a true depression, not just a blue mood, discussing it with a counselor can really help to clarify and redirect ones thoughts. A close family member of mine, years ago suffered a real depression, saw a psychologist for a short time without medication, and has never had a return of the depression.

If this does not apply to you, I'm very glad.

Not to worry. I'm good and was not offended. I think I had just read too many posts suggesting that drugs were the answer to a deeply blue mood. It happens and the sun comes up the next day and all's right with the world again.