[Boomer]

Originally Posted by tomwed

I don't know if joke censorship is the intention of the OP.

Sometimes I roll my eyes at what I wrote the night before and I delete it first thing in the morning hoping not too many read it. People let you know if you come up with something original enough or corny enough fairly soon after you write it. And that's a rush for me when they do. Expect more bombs than hits.

I also watch out for preachiness or a sense of know-it-all-ism. I delete them ASAP.

Many times I'll write something. Sometimes taking a half hour only to push delete because I realize it doesn't add a thing to the conversation or may be taken the wrong way. I give it a little wait and see period. I'll always reread, edit and hopefully shorten. I try to put the funny word as the last word.

I think the OP is asking for proof-joking, sort of like proof-reading. That's all.

[soon to be deleted for preachiness]

AHA! tomwed, I saw that little self-talk you put at the bottom so I threw a net over you -- well over this post of yours -- because I like it. It is not preachy or know-it-all-y. I think it is insightful.

[outlaw]

It's a forum! Lighten up. If you think posts are too serious or not serious enough, maybe it's time to read a book, or write a letter to someone. Anything except continue reading these posts that for some reason upset you sufficiently to cause you to write a manifesto because they are TOO humorous, or not humorous ENOUGH? The forum culture has just evolved past the grammar/punctuation police, and now we get the humor police?

[Nucky]

Rules on humor? Whoa! Lighten up, try telling a joke, it feels great most of the time.

[tomwed]

Originally Posted by golfing eagles

Like I said, he is entitled to his opinion. But if YOU are editing YOUR posts because of what someone else is setting as a standard, then that is a form of censorship, no matter what you call it. If you were going to edit it anyway because you didn't like it, that's fine. There is a huge difference between the two. I think you should get back to your jokes---at least I like them

Not just some one. I'm getting the vibe it might be many. And I'm a little insecure. That's the risk. The funniest people I know also had nuns.

[tomwed]

Originally Posted by outlaw

The forum culture has just evolved past the grammar/punctuation police, and now we get the humor police?

That would be cool to invent a joke check app.

[kittygilchrist]

Originally Posted by outlaw

It's a forum! Lighten up. If you think posts are too serious or not serious enough, maybe it's time to read a book, or write a letter to someone. Anything except continue reading these posts that for some reason upset you sufficiently to cause you to write a manifesto because they are TOO humorous, or not humorous ENOUGH? The forum culture has just evolved past the grammar/punctuation police, and now we get the humor police?

Eric Berne's book Games PEople play talks about paradigm for analyzing conversation using a very simple method: determine whether the voice of the speaker is parent, adult, or child, each of which presents with healthy and unhealthy manifestations.
Assume the monitors are healthy parents, it is their rightful duty to set rules and referee.

Healthy child talk is delightfully unexpected harmless expressions of humor, wonder, good-natured ribbing, playful zzest for life.

Unhealthy child often uses name-calling and has a rebellious tone, and tries to make strong statements of opinion without facts by throwing pebbles and whimpering about hurt feelings. Some use humor as a cloak for childish bedevilment.

Healthy parent, (Gracie) is often a mediator for peace, keeeping the tone light and friendly while still invting persons to higher social grace (except when she loses it and makes ///.)

Unhealthy parent is my least favorite, where persons peremptorily demand "what is wrong with you people?" To be seen as the Knowitall poobah. Angry, very forceful how-dare-you think and write what you did! Stop!

[tomwed]

Originally Posted by MUHLBACH1@HOTMAIL.COM

Rules on humor? Whoa! Lighten up, try telling a joke, it feels great most of the time.

discretion is sometimes the better part of wit

[outlaw]

Originally Posted by kittygilchrist

Eric Berne's book Games PEople play talks about paradigm for analyzing conversation using a very simple method: determine whether the voice of the speaker is parent, adult, or child, each of which presents with healthy and unhealthy manifestations.
Assume the monitors are healthy parents, it is their rightful duty to set rules and referee.

Healthy child talk is delightfully unexpected harmless expressions of humor, wonder, good-natured ribbing, playful zzest for life.

Unhealthy child often uses name-calling and has a rebellious tone, and tries to make strong statements of opinion without facts by throwing pebbles and whimpering about hurt feelings. Some use humor as a cloak for childish bedevilment.

Healthy parent, (Gracie) is often a mediator for peace, keeeping the tone light and friendly while still invting persons to higher social grace (except when she loses it and makes ///.)

Unhealthy parent is my least favorite, where persons peremptorily demand "what is wrong with you people?" To be seen as the Knowitall poobah. Angry, very forceful how-dare-you think and write what you did! Stop!

Healthy parent, unhealthy parent; one and the same. I already have a mother.

[kittygilchrist]

IMO, the following from th OP was an adult mediating for social grace. I find it harmful when humor is used about someone badly injured, or has lost a pet, for example.

"Possibly even more important because it has the potential to irritate and/or offend people...the "jokes" are at a time when they are simply not appropriate, either posted inappropriately in a serious thread, or at a time within any thread that is simply inappropriate in the context posted. Don't get me wrong. I think humor is great therapy, and can be used in the most serious of situations. But even then, some sense of timing and appropriateness is essential. "

[billethkid]

Not to forget that one cannot please everybody.
With discretion and common sense in gear there is no reason to not tell/write your joke. And yes, there will be some variance to what one thinks is OK VS what another of us may think otherwise.

But most of us will just enjoy what is passed along and those we don't....just do not make nor are entitled to a ripple in the stream of life!!

[Boomer]

Originally Posted by tomwed

Not just some one. I'm getting the vibe it might be many. And I'm a little insecure. That's the risk. The funniest people I know also had nuns.

Oh tomwed, please do not feel insecure. What I meant when I said your post was insightful is that I liked how you told us you look at your own writing and think about it.

There is a saying, "Don't tell. Show." That saying can apply not only to life but to writing. You showed us a little behind the scenes with tomwed who cares about his words.

That post of yours could stand alone as an outstanding comment on posting angst. I really liked it. Maybe because I know exactly what you are talking about. I have thought twice before hitting submit many times. But not often enough. I have lots of cringeworthy also-rans hanging out there in cyberspace.

Please do not feel bad.

And, btw, I also like it when you cook and tell us about it.

[tomwed]

Originally Posted by kittygilchrist

Eric Berne's book Games PEople play talks about paradigm for analyzing conversation using a very simple method: determine whether the voice of the speaker is parent, adult, or child, each of which presents with healthy and unhealthy manifestations.
Assume the monitors are healthy parents, it is their rightful duty to set rules and referee.

Healthy child talk is delightfully unexpected harmless expressions of humor, wonder, good-natured ribbing, playful zzest for life.

Unhealthy child often uses name-calling and has a rebellious tone, and tries to make strong statements of opinion without facts by throwing pebbles and whimpering about hurt feelings. Some use humor as a cloak for childish bedevilment.

Healthy parent, (Gracie) is often a mediator for peace, keeeping the tone light and friendly while still invting persons to higher social grace (except when she loses it and makes ///.)

Unhealthy parent is my least favorite, where persons peremptorily demand "what is wrong with you people?" To be seen as the Knowitall poobah. Angry, very forceful how-dare-you think and write what you did! Stop!

My freshman year my favorite book was "I'm OK, Your OK". It ruined many a good date.

[tomwed]

Originally Posted by Boomer

Oh tomwed, please do not feel insecure. What I meant when I said your post was insightful is that I liked how you told us you look at your own writing and think about it.

There is a saying, "Don't tell. Show." That saying can apply not only to life but to writing. You showed us a little behind the scenes with tomwed who cares about his words.

That post of yours could stand alone as an outstanding comment on posting angst. I really liked it. Maybe because I know exactly what you are talking about. I have thought twice before hitting submit many times. But not often enough. I have lots of cringeworthy also-rans hanging out there in cyberspace.

Please do not feel bad.

And, btw, I also like it when you cook and tell us about it.

I don't feel that bad. That does come across as pretty neurotic. I'll tell you a funny story.

The first time we rented down here the guy across the street saw my tags. He was also from NJ. I am of a certain age that remembers from years ago, that not everyone form the south appreciates our NJ sense of humor. For example, my favorite book freshman year was "I'm OK, You're an A..hole". That's plays out pretty funny back home. And when people tell me I have an accent and ask where I came from, I say "France" in my best NJ twang.

Anyway I asked the neighbor how he was received down here and did he have to make any adjustments. He said the only problem he found was his language. He soon realized no one curses down here. I asked "How the f... did you stop?" and he said it was very hard and took awhile. But I stopped too unless I get in a foursome of Jersey people and it's like we're all truck drivers again. Not everyone will see the humor in this funny story.

So yea, humor is a little more risky down here if you come from New Jersey.

[Taltarzac725]

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