[fdpaq0580]

Originally Posted by DAVES

People are people. We know that or should know that. Is the glass half full or half empty?
It applies to everything. Simple example, some look at a lawn and see only the weeds.

Glass half full or half empty? Doesn't matter. Glass is at 50% capacity.

[DAVES]

Originally Posted by OrangeBlossomBaby

I guess it depends on what you mean by "miserable living in TV."

By that do you mean:

people who look at what was considered weeds where they came from, and miss the grass?

people who are confounded that they have to wash the outside of their house every few months to get the mold off the siding?

people who would love nothing more than to sit in the back yard watching the sunset but are viciously attacked by fire ants?

people whose only previous experience with cockroaches were the little ones in their studio apartment that they shared with 2 other people in a city walk-up during their senior year of college, and now are seeing the "big guys" raiding the fridge and making themselves at home on the couch?

people whose previous community involved a majority of drivers who used their turn signals consistently and correctly?

people whose previous community did NOT involve a bunch of political nuts plastering "This guy sucks" on their bumper stickers and golf cart windshields and raising "this guy sucks" flags on their flagpoles?

people who didn't need deed restrictions to know that it was important to maintain their yard, and that an entire block of white crosses was actually offensive to some of the neighbors so maybe put those things in the back yard instead?

people who are more concerned about their freedoms and rights than peaceful cohabitation with their neighbors?

My -neighborhood- where I live right now, is mostly peaceful, we get along, we help each other.

But there's one guy who has a big ugly metal trailer on his driveway - been there for a couple of months, with no sign of them preparing to move it. It's a storage trailer. OUR deed restrictions don't prohibit this. And yet - he's the only one in the entire section of the Villages where it's "allowed" that has one. Why is that? To me, it's because - he doesn't give a flying fart about the rest of the neighborhood. He's allowed, so dammit he'll do what he wants and to heck with everyone else.

We have another who has parties at their house every week, which would be okay except their pals block the driveways of the houses next to them, they're loud and obnoxious, none of them are over 50 (let alone 55), and they're slovenly. They don't -care- that their neighborhood, while modest in quality, makes some attempt at keeping the properties maintained and looking decent, and that they are the ONLY neighbors in the entire neighborhood that are like this.

They live in their own worlds, and don't care that the entire rest of the neighborhood has to deal with them. They don't care that their next door neighbor has to endure seeing the guy sitting in his lounge chair with no shirt, in his boxers with an open front fly, displaying his altogethers to whoever walks past or happens to be out in their OWN lanai next door, just trying to enjoy the weather with a cup of coffee.

I shouldn't have to move. I was here before those people. And if I moved every time I met a neighbor I didn't like in life, I'd be living in a tent somewhere by myself.

You can't pick your neighbors. Sometimes you're just stuck with them, like it or not. You can't choose who will drive in front of you on the road. Sometimes you're just stuck with morons who don't know their left from their right. You can't choose who will drive anywhere near you - there will be pieces of crap who will insist on paying attention to their cell phone instead of the road while they cut in front of you and come to a complete stop in the middle of the road, because they need to yell at their spouse who forgot to replace their hearing aid battery and can't hear what she's saying.

Does this make me miserable all the time? Of course not. I'm mostly a happy person. Does it make me feel miserable during the individual incidents? You bet. It harshes my mellow. Do I get over it? Yup, sure do. Usually a few minutes later.

Does it mean I should leave? Nope.

Does it mean you have to be able to relate to it? Nope.

I am, however, amazed by people who are incapable of comprehending why some folks have - human responses - to human experiences.

Truth, before moving to the villages I became aware of an island for sale in North Carolina. It had a nice home, several acres and a wild herd of horses. It could be bought for one million. Not sure if I was teasing or not but I suggested to my wife we could set up a Kingdom and she could be Queen. That idea died in a Revolution.

That is one SOLUTION. Happiness is a choice. Perfection, is a dream that does not, cannot, will not exist..

[JMintzer]

Originally Posted by EdFNJ

Aside from this topic being mostly trolling and clickbait I have found that to be a general mantra around here. Comment that one doesn't like this or that the response is "if you don't like it, move." Evidently the only way to live here is you have to drink the Kool-Aid and accept everything as it is UNLESS the other person agrees with your complaint THEN it's OK to not sell.

Any YES, moving from the northeast has been traumatic. 5 years next week and I still can't fully adjust to some of the stuff around here both regarding the location and the population. A lot of the good overrides some of the bad but some of the bad is just bad. There were things where I lived previously for 60+ years I didn't like either. One learns to overlook the bad most of the time.

Aside from your personal insult regarding the intent of my post, I never told a soul to move. I stated what -I- would do...

I never said a word about legitimate complaints. So spare me your projections...

[JMintzer]

Originally Posted by Kenswing

I'm amazed by the number of people that are amazed at the number of people who seem to be miserable living in TV yet choose to remain...

Paul McCartney - Maybe I’m Amazed (Official Video) - YouTube

[JMintzer]

Originally Posted by ThirdOfFive

Well, as Mom used to say, "you'd complain if you were hung with a new rope".

(Never did quite figure out what she meant by that...)

New ropes are very "scratchy" on the skin...

Much more comfortable to be hung with a well used, smooth rope...

Wait, what?

[JMintzer]

Originally Posted by Vikingjunior

I got a complaint about idiots who give half ass/ misleading titles to their posts so people will click it. This should be a 14 day ban for giving low effort titles to their lame ass posts.

Or, a ban to those who insult other posters (which is actually against the rules)...

[fdpaq0580]

Originally Posted by JMintzer

Amazed )

You really shouldn't be.

[JMintzer]

Originally Posted by OrangeBlossomBaby

I guess it depends on what you mean by "miserable living in TV."

By that do you mean:

people who look at what was considered weeds where they came from, and miss the grass?

people who are confounded that they have to wash the outside of their house every few months to get the mold off the siding?

people who would love nothing more than to sit in the back yard watching the sunset but are viciously attacked by fire ants?

people whose only previous experience with cockroaches were the little ones in their studio apartment that they shared with 2 other people in a city walk-up during their senior year of college, and now are seeing the "big guys" raiding the fridge and making themselves at home on the couch?

people whose previous community involved a majority of drivers who used their turn signals consistently and correctly?

people whose previous community did NOT involve a bunch of political nuts plastering "This guy sucks" on their bumper stickers and golf cart windshields and raising "this guy sucks" flags on their flagpoles?

people who didn't need deed restrictions to know that it was important to maintain their yard, and that an entire block of white crosses was actually offensive to some of the neighbors so maybe put those things in the back yard instead?

people who are more concerned about their freedoms and rights than peaceful cohabitation with their neighbors?

My -neighborhood- where I live right now, is mostly peaceful, we get along, we help each other.

But there's one guy who has a big ugly metal trailer on his driveway - been there for a couple of months, with no sign of them preparing to move it. It's a storage trailer. OUR deed restrictions don't prohibit this. And yet - he's the only one in the entire section of the Villages where it's "allowed" that has one. Why is that? To me, it's because - he doesn't give a flying fart about the rest of the neighborhood. He's allowed, so dammit he'll do what he wants and to heck with everyone else.

We have another who has parties at their house every week, which would be okay except their pals block the driveways of the houses next to them, they're loud and obnoxious, none of them are over 50 (let alone 55), and they're slovenly. They don't -care- that their neighborhood, while modest in quality, makes some attempt at keeping the properties maintained and looking decent, and that they are the ONLY neighbors in the entire neighborhood that are like this.

They live in their own worlds, and don't care that the entire rest of the neighborhood has to deal with them. They don't care that their next door neighbor has to endure seeing the guy sitting in his lounge chair with no shirt, in his boxers with an open front fly, displaying his altogethers to whoever walks past or happens to be out in their OWN lanai next door, just trying to enjoy the weather with a cup of coffee.

I shouldn't have to move. I was here before those people. And if I moved every time I met a neighbor I didn't like in life, I'd be living in a tent somewhere by myself.

You can't pick your neighbors. Sometimes you're just stuck with them, like it or not. You can't choose who will drive in front of you on the road. Sometimes you're just stuck with morons who don't know their left from their right. You can't choose who will drive anywhere near you - there will be pieces of crap who will insist on paying attention to their cell phone instead of the road while they cut in front of you and come to a complete stop in the middle of the road, because they need to yell at their spouse who forgot to replace their hearing aid battery and can't hear what she's saying.

Does this make me miserable all the time? Of course not. I'm mostly a happy person. Does it make me feel miserable during the individual incidents? You bet. It harshes my mellow. Do I get over it? Yup, sure do. Usually a few minutes later.

Does it mean I should leave? Nope.

Does it mean you have to be able to relate to it? Nope.

I am, however, amazed by people who are incapable of comprehending why some folks have - human responses - to human experiences.

You've just described problems that happen in EVERY SINGLE NEIGHBORHOOD, across the country.

Maybe not all of them, but many of them...

And if you actually read my initial post, I never suggested that anyone (except ME) do anything...

[DAVES]

Originally Posted by BigSteph

I agree in general to "Just Move if you Don't Like It," but this statement is not always possible.

Not everyone can afford or endure another move -- especially as they age.

The next mantra is "You should have known better, researched, rented first!"

Many people don't have the means to come down for several "Lifestyle Visits" or have a season of leisure to rent before buying. Most people I have met all agree that you have to settle your ties and debts before moving here. There are some that maintain lives here and afar, but many homestead.

I suspect if people had unlimited resources and were not happy here, they would find another place to suit them.

Some people, I agree, are in the business of misery -- if not for misery, they would be terribly miserable.

There are a lot of frogs here that don't have the means or energy to find another pond.

This post conflicts itself. Perhaps, a state of humanity for all of us. Robert Frost, the path not taken. I had a minor in psychology. Normal humans go through two stressful life periods. Around 15-18 what am i going to do with my life. Then, 50-???? what have I done with my life. That seems to be where most of these posts are.

Many ironies of life. Ponce de Leon came to Florida to discover the fountain of youth.
Florida is loaded with senior living-HUH?

The means or the energy? All the OLD lines apply. The world is your oyster. Where there is a will there is a way. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.
Whatever you have there will be some with more and some with less.

I do not have the answers and if I did they would be my answers not the answers for others. I do perhaps see in many of these posts that some do not realize what the real problem is-it is them.

[JoMar]

Originally Posted by cypress

Left out is the case where one spouse loves it and the other hates it. Which one gets to enjoy life?

Have met a couple of those here.....usually the wife loves it and the guy hates it. There is a solution to that but guys don't usually function well alone which is why they remarry and the women stay single. Good news is the haters are in the minority here.

[JMintzer]

Originally Posted by cypress

Left out is the case where one spouse loves it and the other hates it. Which one gets to enjoy life?

The wife, of course... (ducks for cover...)

[JMintzer]

Originally Posted by fdpaq0580

Glass half full or half empty? Doesn't matter. Glass is at 50% capacity.

Damn engineers...

[DAVES]

Originally Posted by Vikingjunior

I got a complaint about idiots who give half ass/ misleading titles to their posts so people will click it. This should be a 14 day ban for giving low effort titles to their lame ass posts.

REALITY-we all have a CHOICE to read it or NOT. Also, a CHOICE to reply or NOT.
A 14 day ban? My OPINION when people resort to name calling it lowers my OPINION of them.

[Byte1]

Originally Posted by EdFNJ

Aside from this topic being mostly trolling and clickbait I have found that to be a general mantra around here. Comment that one doesn't like this or that the response is "if you don't like it, move." Evidently the only way to live here is you have to drink the Kool-Aid and accept everything as it is UNLESS the other person agrees with your complaint THEN it's OK to not sell.

Any YES, moving from the northeast has been traumatic. 5 years next week and I still can't fully adjust to some of the stuff around here both regarding the location and the population. A lot of the good overrides some of the bad but some of the bad is just bad. There were things where I lived previously for 60+ years I didn't like either. One learns to overlook the bad most of the time.

Perfect example of the OP.............
Some folks do not understand when they are miserable because they enjoy being miserable. I guess that even a few nice photos shared is also "click bait" to some.

[Bilyclub]

Summer is the best in TV and not something on my negative list.