[mrdarcy]

Arrogance, entitlement, lack of graciousness, boorishness. I too have seen these attitudes in The Villages. Genuinely happy people don't exhibit the above noted traits. There's more misery behind closed doors here than is apparent at first blush.

[Bonanza]

My doctor just changed my "happy" pill.
The old one didn't seem to be working.
I must say, I'm a pretty happy camper these days.
I haven't found as many not-so-nice people lately,
but when I do, I'll be sure to tell them about this pill!

Seriously, though . . . perhaps that's what some people may need.
Many seniors have a problem with depression and a happy pill could be just what the doctor ordered.

[cattywampus]

I have learned to give wide leeway when people are grouchy or unhappy.
It is not my place to judge people on one encounter.
Many people have a bad day, once in a while.

[cattywampus]

Originally Posted by mrdarcy

Arrogance, entitlement, lack of graciousness, boorishness. I too have seen these attitudes in The Villages. Genuinely happy people don't exhibit the above noted traits. There's more misery behind closed doors here than is apparent at first blush.

I too have witnessed the attitudes.

Yet, have found that almost all Villagers are
polite and gracious and wait their turn.
They also treat wait persons with respect.

[gamby]

2 Timothy 3: 1-5

But know this, that in the last days+ critical times hard to deal with will be here. For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, haughty, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, disloyal, 3 having no natural affection, not open to any agreement, slanderers, without self-control, fierce, without love of goodness, betrayers, headstrong, puffed up with pride, lovers of pleasures rather than lovers of God,

[Barefoot]

Originally Posted by Bonanza

Seriously, though . . . perhaps that's what some people may need.
Many seniors have a problem with depression and a happy pill could be just what the doctor ordered.

We don't need no darn happy pills, we have Happy Hours!

A statistic I read was six million people over the age of 65 are depressed.
Even though The Villages is a fabulous, active retirement community, the fact remains that old age beings aches and pains and possibly surgeries. And often the loss of loved ones.
We can move forward courageously, but some of us may need Meds to even out our moods.
No shame in that, depression is an illness.

[Wandatime]

Originally Posted by tippyclubb

Come down to my street in Collier and you'll see plenty of it. I don't know where these people come from but it's a unfriendly street. The man a few doors away is down right rude. I keep waving and smiling though, I refuse to let them get me down. I just don't understand grumpy people.

Hey, I live in Collier! I'll be in TV in late September and early October; maybe we can meet! My street is pretty friendly (Ragsdale Loop) so far but I haven't met everybody.

[tippyclubb]

Originally Posted by Wandatime

Hey, I live in Collier! I'll be in TV in late September and early October; maybe we can meet! My street is pretty friendly (Ragsdale Loop) so far but I haven't met everybody.

I'm trying to send you a PM but it's not showing up as going through. Did you get it? If not try to send me one and I can respond to it to give you contact information.

[DaleMN]

Originally Posted by gamby

2 Timothy 3: 1-5

But know this, that in the last days+ critical times hard to deal with will be here. For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, haughty, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, disloyal, 3 having no natural affection, not open to any agreement, slanderers, without self-control, fierce, without love of goodness, betrayers, headstrong, puffed up with pride, lovers of pleasures rather than lovers of God,

Party on!!!

[eweissenbach]

There are many reasons that people may act more rudely today than in the past, but I would posit that mass media is a large one. You can't turn on talk radio without hearing someone screeching about the other side in the most mean spirited way possible. Sports talk radio is filled with egomaniacs who are rude to anyone with a differing opinion. Fox News channel and MSNBC are both full of partisans who love to paint anyone with a differing viewpoint as subhuman. People listen to these one-sided diatribes and many come away believing that only one point of view is reasonable and any other is wrong and even evil. Decorum, reasonable debate and disagreement, and yes, good manners have been replaced by unyielding confrontation. Some people pay no attention, and others simply don't take this contentiousness seriously, but a seeming growing number get very agitated and this often spills over into real life. It is my opinion that politics and political viewpoints are more intense and more freely expressed, often in a rather discomforting way, because of this. This confrontational style has spilled over into other areas of peoples lives, leading to uncomfortable and angry exchanges in some cases. I don't find this issue any more prevalent in TV than in any other place I have been, but find it a troubling sign of the times. JMHO

[billethkid]

Originally Posted by eweissenbach

There are many reasons that people may act more rudely today than in the past, but I would posit that mass media is a large one. You can't turn on talk radio without hearing someone screeching about the other side in the most mean spirited way possible. Sports talk radio is filled with egomaniacs who are rude to anyone with a differing opinion. Fox News channel and MSNBC are both full of partisans who love to paint anyone with a differing viewpoint as subhuman. People listen to these one-sided diatribes and many come away believing that only one point of view is reasonable and any other is wrong and even evil. Decorum, reasonable debate and disagreement, and yes, good manners have been replaced by unyielding confrontation. Some people pay no attention, and others simply don't take this contentiousness seriously, but a seeming growing number get very agitated and this often spills over into real life. It is my opinion that politics and political viewpoints are more intense and more freely expressed, often in a rather discomforting way, because of this. This confrontational style has spilled over into other areas of peoples lives, leading to uncomfortable and angry exchanges in some cases. I don't find this issue any more prevalent in TV than in any other place I have been, but find it a troubling sign of the times. JMHO

I agree 100%. I would only suggest that your last sentence have one more word included as below:

"...find it another troubling sign of the times...."

[casita37]

When someone is rude to me, my first thought is " Is that all you got?" You're out and about, walking on your own two feet. You look well fed, you have appropriate clothing, nobody is holding you at gunpoint, and I did NOT kill your dog, so get over your lame self!!
Outwardly, I usually say something like...oh, sorry.....LOL

[Taltarzac725]

Dr. Phil.com - Advice - Dealing with Rude People

Dr. Phil comes to the rescue. This only may work in some cases though.

[Bavarian]

The Villages is not billed as the nation's friendliest hometown, just Florida's. I think people come here from unfriendly places and keep the same mode. Where we lived in MD, everyone waved to each other when passing in a car, waliking, etc. Other developments did not.
All one can do is wave hi to people you pass on the way.

I sometimes think some of the rudeness may be the fact that some people are venting their frustrations they put up with when working, just smile, wave hello, ask how they are.

[buggyone]

I have lived in The Villages for 5 years and found almost everyone friendly and helpful. Only a very, very few rude encounters.

As far as the political views, I have made friends with those on the other side of my political party and we do enjoy bantering back and forth over an ice cold Yeungling.

I love it here in The Villages, have met some great friends, and have nothing but praise for The Developer.