[DougB]

Sorry, but excluding me, I've yet to meet one rude or impatient person in the Villages.

[Barefoot]

Originally Posted by OBXNana

We only have control over our own behavior. Treat others as you want to be treated and hope the cycle continues. It begins with us.

As OBXNana wisely said "It begins with us"
If we are all consistently appreciative and pleasant, soon we won't even notice the grumpy buckets around us.

[Polar Bear]

Where is all this rudeness and nastiness of which you speak. Try as I might, I've simply been unable to find it.

(DougB...it's obvious we haven't met each other yet!)

[jrandall]

Don't worry Be Happy. ��

[billethkid]

it seems there always has to be a reality reminder when things like the original post quotes.

Please keep in mind what is being presented is one persons opinion spreading it as though there was a general condition being revealed. When we all know that most of us and those we know (and don't know) constitute far and away the majority who do things in life right.

AND it is unfortunate, just as is demonstrated in this thread, there are comments supporting the "what happened" behavior......even though it is not the majority behavior.

Once again as I usually do....let's hear it for those of us who do it right and not worry too much about the other 5% (OK make it 6.7654%).

[Wandatime]

Originally Posted by Indydealmaker

I think that Rubicon was insightful by pointing one finger of blame at a general malaise in this country as a result of increasingly obvious corruption, lack of work ethic, racial divide, uncertainty as to what the future holds, erosion of traditions, etc.

Another factor to consider, when people comment that the grouchy, rude population is greater here, is that TV has the largest concentration of seniors in the world. Sprinkle our grouchy seniors back among the younger-diluted population elsewhere and you would hardly notice them.

Many people do not age well. Illness, boredom, lack of purpose, onset of dementia, concern about having enough funds for their remaining lives, and increased awareness of their mortality are all some serious stressors.

It is not TV and it IS TV. It is all about demographics. Maybe TV should start concentrating on mental well-being as well as physical.

All very good points. I have seen a couple of incidences in TV where someone was going way over the top with their demands; I've also been cut off on the road, cut in front of in line, had parking spaces taken when it was clear by my blinker I was planning on using it, etc., etc. It does seem to happen more here than in places where the demographics are more balanced.

However, I know from personal experience (my mother) that a person with even the beginnings of dementia or Alzheimer's can behave in demanding, irrational, and even alarming ways. I also know from personal experience (my husband) that pain from a bad back or cancer can make even the kindest or most mild mannered person cranky. Heck, I'm no angel when I haven't had enough sleep and my first cup of coffee!

I can't change anybody; only my reaction to it. A warm smile works wonders.

Just don't take my parking space before I've had my three cups of caffeine. I'll cut you up like last night's chicken!

[elbear]

It's real and in TV and elsewhere but not rampant. Kindness is also all around. You see it all but then it is up to you what you dwell on...I feel much much better focusing on the latter but every so often get caught. It's those times I remind myself I'm not perfect either and try to remember to do better.

[Jdmiata]

Older people ( like me ) tend to be less tolerant . We just have a lot of older people in TV.

[Dr Winston O Boogie jr]

I don't know where Jaime has been hanging out, but I find that the vast majority of people that I've met here and have seen around The Villages are the most friendly, courteous, happy people that I've ever met in my life.

[dbussone]

Originally Posted by Dr Winston O Boogie jr

I don't know where Jaime has been hanging out, but I find that the vast majority of people that I've met here and have seen around The Villages are the most friendly, courteous, happy people that I've ever met in my life.

Well stated. I am so thrilled to be here...after 2+ years. And anticipate the same going forward.

[Aandjmassage]

Only been here 2 months but not seen any one in a bad mood yet. Hope I did not jinx it.

[tippyclubb]

Originally Posted by Polar Bear

Where is all this rudeness and nastiness of which you speak. Try as I might, I've simply been unable to find it.

(DougB...it's obvious we haven't met each other yet!)

Come down to my street in Collier and you'll see plenty of it. I don't know where these people come from but it's a unfriendly street. The man a few doors away is down right rude. I keep waving and smiling though, I refuse to let them get me down. I just don't understand grumpy people.

[DruannB]

When we visited TV last month, we were very impressed by how friendly everyone was to us. My husband tends to attract friendly people. He is friendly personified. Then one day he made a wrong turn on a cart path and a gentleman u-turned, pulled him over and gave him a piece of his mind. We have never, ever encountered such hostility from a stranger. John apologized for not knowing his way around the paths and we drove away as quickly as our cart would move. A few blocks later we stopped in a parking lot to regroup and shake off the verbal attack. The same gentleman approached us. Our initial reaction was fear. What would he do now? He then acted like he didn't recognize us, was extremely helpful with directions, and wished us a good day. We concluded it was age or medicine related. It was a reminder to both of us to have a bit more tolerance. One day it might be us. And I can get cranky even when I'm feeling well. That being said, I know that when I move to TV, I should expect something similar to happen again. I guess it's the price we pay to live in TV. After all, paradise is what you make it, but no one should expect Disney World every day.

[Indydealmaker]

Originally Posted by tippyclubb

Come down to my street in Collier and you'll see plenty of it. I don't know where these people come from but it's a unfriendly street. The man a few doors away is down right rude. I keep waving and smiling though, I refuse to let them get me down. I just don't understand grumpy people.

We have 16 homes on our court and 15 out of the 16 are great neighbors. The jury is still out on the 16th as they do not go out of their way to be friendly or to attend most neighborhood gatherings. However, we gain our 16th by enjoying to the company of the family behind us. We are blessed.

[Carpe Diem]

(Hey Findlay, OH! - from Norwalk)

Haven't met any rude people yet.