I want to thank you all for the responses here & in my mail box.For those of you who say I should "put myself out there" my response is I have .I've hande out cards asking people to call if they would like to play pickleball or golf.I don't know what else to do .Guess it is what it is..thanks!!

[ssmith]

Sooo how ya doing Bosoxfan? I have moved several times and it does take awhile.

I read your post about giving the cards. I think you need to be a little more out there. I mean you should make definite plans. Like do you want to do something later today...how about the square. I guess what I am saying is that if you hand out the cards it just does not seems as approachable...like you are waiting on them ....when you need to be the one to be more specific. Just my thoughts.

Mind you, I have been worried too about a possible move and making lasting type close friends. My girl friend says " There are those who are friendly and those who want to be friends". The point is you need to be the 2nd type and find those also.

[bestmickey]

Originally Posted by Bosoxfan

I want to thank you all for the responses here & in my mail box.For those of you who say I should "put myself out there" my response is I have .I've hande out cards asking people to call if they would like to play pickleball or golf.I don't know what else to do .Guess it is what it is..thanks!!

Hmmmm, just wondering. Are you a really good athlete? Perhaps your level of play intimidates people? Just a thought. I'm just a short time visitor. Otherwise, I'd invite you to golf (if you had patience since I'm not very skilled). During my current visit, I've met quite a few nice couples and singles who signed up with my sister and I for our golf times. Met a real nice fellow today (Chuck) who is a newbie living in Sanibel. IF he should read this, perhaps he will send you a PM to hook up for golf.

Love your German Shepard. My mom had one when she was young. She loved that dog. Just hang in there. Keep trying and I'm sure you'll find some friends!

[hotrodgirl]

I am also a TV wannabe and have lurked on TOTV. I am coming in just a few days for a Lifestyle Preview Plan, and was reading with interest one of the posts regarding dog owners. It concerned me because I have 2 myself and heard so many negative things on the post. I wondered just how friendly people really are in TV. However, I soon decided I was the only person to make the decision to come there, and it would be unjust to base any decision upon a few posts. Those who had a different opinion are certainly entitled to that, and may very well be wonderful people. Who am I to judge without experiencing it for myself? Just walking up to someone to ask a question and introduce yourself is an avenue for interaction. I wish you much luck there, and now believe after so many nice posts in return, that people are indeed friendly and relaxed. I'm sure if you ask someone to come over for drinks or play a game of golf, they would respond affirmatively! Life is short. Enjoy and get out there! We make our own happiness and a positive attitude makes for a pretty wonderful life!

[KathieI]

Bosox,,, I don't play golf, nor tennis, nor pickleball.... but I do socialize and DANCE!!!!

So whether you are single or NOT, you're welcome to join me and my crowd any evening at any of the local joints. I'm a great ice-breaker and can introduce you to a load of guys who are really nice and social.

Come join us for a beer on Saturday night at 6pm at Waterfront hotel. I'll be there with a bunch of friends and I'll be happy to introduce you. Even to people I DON'T know!!! LOL...

[rhsgypsylady]

I am new as well and agree that Kathie is the person to introduce you to people. She has introduced me to a few (at Waterfront). I plan to be there again Saturday night for some more introductions. I too LOVE TO DANCE!! I also agree that you have to put yourself out there. By that I mean go to places, engage in conversations, participate in activities, be outgoing and not bashful. I'm not saying you're not doing these things; you probably are. I've only been here a week and feel like I will continue to have to put myself out there now and in the future to meet friends now and to meet future new friends. It's an ongoing process and one that takes time. As Hedoman said, "friendships develop over time".

As for inappropriate responses on TOTV, I take them with a grain of salt. I ignore the bad stuff and soak up the good stuff. Here again, I agree with Gracie, TOTV is a wealth of information. Even though I just arrived here, I've been reading TOTV for 2 years and know of no where else where I could have learned what I have learned about TV.

Bosoxfan - I wish you and any new Villagers, as well as myself, good luck in enjoying life here and meeting new friends. PS - if you're a dancer, I could use a dance partner!

[Pturner]

Originally Posted by Bosoxfan

I want to thank you all for the responses here & in my mail box.For those of you who say I should "put myself out there" my response is I have .I've hande out cards asking people to call if they would like to play pickleball or golf.I don't know what else to do .Guess it is what it is..thanks!!

Hi Bosoxfan,

I too am a fan of your posts (and your dog ). SSmith makes a good point. Handing out cards is a great start, but does put the onus on the other person to take the initiative to set up plans. Perhaps you could do the inviting.

It's wonderful that you have received a lot of PM's. You have made a personal request and TOTVers are once again coming through, responding back to you in a personal way. Perhaps your OP was just what you needed to get the ball rolling. I hope so!

BTW, the Turners would love to meet you when we're in town.

[CaptJohn]

This whole thread has been a refreshing, positive, informative and pleasant read, don't you think?

[graciegirl]

Remember when you first moved in? The G's signaled that we were coming by to see you and you had house guests.

Then the whirlwind stuff that happens here, just happens here, you get diverted, sidetracked, involved with stuff and it is another day put to bed.

We sure would like you to come up our way and have something cold to drink.

Hope to see you at Crispers.

Hugs and warm wishes to a very nice person. One of my favorite posters on this forum.

[Dirigo]

Originally Posted by Pturner

Hi Bosoxfan,

I too am a fan of your posts (and your dog ). SSmith makes a good point. Handing out cards is a great start, but does put the onus on the other person to take the initiative to set up plans. Perhaps you could do the inviting.

It's wonderful that you have received a lot of PM's. You have made a personal request and TOTVers are once again coming through, responding back to you in a personal way. Perhaps your OP was just what you needed to get the ball rolling. I hope so!

BTW, the Turners would love to meet you when we're in town.

PT invited the lovely Diane and I to join a group of people for supper at RedSauce around New Years. We had not met the wonderful PT and Mr. PT at that time, we only knew each other through TOTV. Everyone had a great time with people they had never met, and the lovely Diane and I have made great friends with a couple we met there that night.

Making a reservation for 10 for people who (mostly) didn't know each other was a risk for PT, but she was a fabulous host and the evening was a lot of fun. Thanks for inviting us PT.

PT-When are you coming back down to TV?? I'm sure we'd all like to see you more often down here.

[Pturner]

Originally Posted by Dirigo

PT invited the lovely Diane and I to join a group of people for supper at RedSauce around New Years. We had not met the wonderful PT and Mr. PT at that time, we only knew each other through TOTV. Everyone had a great time with people they had never met, and the lovely Diane and I have made great friends with a couple we met there that night.

Making a reservation for 10 for people who (mostly) didn't know each other was a risk for PT, but she was a fabulous host and the evening was a lot of fun. Thanks for inviting us PT.

PT-When are you coming back down to TV?? I'm sure we'd all like to see you more often down here.

Oh my, thanks for your lovely post! How cool that you made a lasting friendship from the evening, as that was my wish for all newbies who attended. You see, the incomparable KathieI did this for me when I was new and I was just paying it forward.

We'll be down the end of this month and definitely want to see you and the lovely Diane. I'm sending you a PM.

[msllicata]

Originally Posted by Bosoxfan

I was wondering if there are people (like me) having problems making friends here in the villages? I am very active in softball and have a lot of friendly acquiaintances at the field but don't seem to be included in other activities.I golf ,love pickleball ,enjoy bowling,cycling and I hear lots of conversations amongst guys about meeting later for golf ,pickleball etc. but these invites are never directed at me.I have tried to be included by stating my interest in these activities to no avail. All I can think of is I'm relatively young(54) & recently went back to work nights...I don't know..if someone has suggestions ..I'm open...Thanks!

Hi Bosoxfan,

I am also new to the villages, and I am younger then most, I also am from MA. I don't golf or know how to play pickleball, but I like alot of other things. If you want someone to do things with just let me know.

Looking to meet new friends.

Well it' a year and a half later & not much has changed.If I want to golf I go by myself. Once in a while I'm invited to join in but only as a last resort.Still love the lifestyle!

[murray607]

Originally Posted by Bosoxfan

Well it' a year and a half later & not much has changed.If I want to golf I go by myself. Once in a while I'm invited to join in but only as a last resort.Still love the lifestyle!

Hey Bosox. If you want someone to golf with, my wife and I will be there early January until end of April.

My wife used to play softball and wants to get back into playing again. We haven't tried pickleball yet, but are willing to try.

We did establish some contacts during our LSV last November on golf courses and will be following up when we return.

And my wife is a Sox fan..................can't wait until tonight's game and Boston get's their first home WS title since 1918!!!!!.

pm me if you are interested in meeting up for golf, chat, coffee, cigar in January............Jim & Karen Murray

[John_W]

Originally Posted by Bosoxfan

Well it' a year and a half later & not much has changed.If I want to golf I go by myself. Once in a while I'm invited to join in but only as a last resort.Still love the lifestyle!

Do you play softball on a neighborhood team? I play SS for Tamarind Grove, if you're at Saddlebrook this Saturday look me up at 9:45 on field 3. What team do you play for?

I also play golf, normally twice a week but since the green fees went 10/15 we've scaled back to once a week on a championship and then maybe an excutive. I'm in Tamarind Grove and I play with my neighbor who is also a Red Sox fan. I'm an Orioles/Ravens fan, but we get along, it's really the Yankee and Steeler fans we have to tolerate. We could make it a threesome sometime. Our biggest problem is he works 2 or 3 days a week and we have to plan golf around his schedule.

I also went to Pickleball 101 this morning at Sterling Hgts., I'm looking to get into that as well. I don't know why I've waited so long, been here 2-1/2 years. Going to buy shoes and a racket tomorrow. I really liked what we did there today. I'm kind of athletic, so I pick things up pretty quick.