[CaptJohn]

Originally Posted by swimdawg

I am curious as to WHY this thread was resurrected?

I like these old threads being bumped for whatever reason as I would have not found or read it otherwise and it helps a newer member to learn more of the history for a better overall perspective.

[Larry Wilson]

Oh the nastiness of some people.

[Pathel]

Originally Posted by Larry Wilson

Oh the nastiness of some people.

That's our Larry! Always so positive, upbeat and happy.

[rubicon]

Originally Posted by SALYBOW

As a hospital chaplain I have come to realize that when people express their feelings, they are just that...feelings. Feelings are neither good or bad... they just are. When I hear someone express a negative view I realize it is their perception of a person, place, or situation. I can choose whether or not to make it mine, but would never do so without trying t out myself.
When I look at things this way I realize that a person should not be judged on a one time experience or comment. I would rather try to discover a trend in their thought. I have probably been guilty of being somewhat negative when I have been going through some rough times. When my 38 yo SIL was diagnosed with bladder cancer I really felt down. Those two kids don't need this kind of thing. Luckily, I have been able to place that situation at My Lord's feet. He is far better equipped to handle the situation than I am. I hope that if I expressed that sadness here, I will be forgiven, or at least forgotten. LOL
What I am trying to say, and possibly badly, it that we need to respect everyone's opinion even when we disagree with it. This freedom of self expression has been won for us by many hero's lives.

SALYBOW You need to finish one sentence. "Feelings are neither good or bad..they just are" ...with "but how you react to those feelings".

I believe the OP was making that point.

Graciegirl is right in her response. Far too many of us take what someone says as truth. It may not be because they did lie, exaggerated, acted out emotionally/implusively or simply were factually incorrect for a number of reasons.


We simply do not know. The classic Who What When and How help sort these things out in our minds but as the OP in dicated we ought to give an individual the benefit of the doubt. and if we can't then perhaps remain silient on the issue

[skyguy79]

Originally Posted by rubicon

The classic Who What When and How help sort these things out in our minds but as the OP in dicated we ought to give an individual the benefit of the doubt. and if we can't then perhaps remain silient on the issue

Whoops-a-daisy! What happened to the "Where" in that classic phrase. Is it in the Witness Protection Program?

"I'll find that "Where" if it's
the last think I'll do!"
Inspector Pawzoo!

[2BNTV]

Originally Posted by skyguy79

Whoops-a-daisy! What happened to the "Where" in that classic phrase. Is it in the Witness Protection Program?

"I'll find that "Where" if it's
the last think I'll do!"
Inspector Pawzoo!

Sky: You are a hoot.

"Who", is on first.

"What", is on second.

"Where", is playing right field?

Just kidding.

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by 2BNTV

Sky: You are a hoot.

"Who", is on first.

"What", is on second.

"Where", is playing right field?

Just kidding.

Then there is Moe, Curly and LARRY.

[Larry Wilson]

Originally Posted by Pathel

That's our Larry! Always so positive, upbeat and happy.

Thanks. You're right. Beautiful weather, great friends, fun things to do and many ways to help others.


I only wish I saw less bashing on here. I really don't know why I bother to post. But to be quite honest I came to the villages in 2004 and have watched this board since it started. (only checking in once in awhile). It has had a ton of meanness and has driven many people to stop posting or never post. Maybe that comes with people hiding their identity. At the same time it has many many wonderful posters.

I wish everyone a great night. And I really mean that.

[lightworker888]

when my husband and I are dealing with people whose views differ from ours. Whoever thinks of it first reminds the other one that this person is doing the best that s/he can given their history, energy available at the moment, circumstance, knowledge they have etc. and that if we had the same input as her/him that we would be doing the same thing. (I know that may be a big jump for many people!) It's similar to "there but for the grace of God, go I". It really has helped us in many situations to be more understanding and less defensive about our views.

Another good question that we got from a trainer was " What presuppositions must that person have to lead to that conclusion." That has often been useful as the person was usually just missing some info and jumping to a conclusion from a picture they were creating their own history and from limited input. In fact in one course we learned that 80% of our conclusions come from our history and only 10% from the information. At that rate it's a miracle we can communicate clearly at all, let alone understand the person enough to make a judgement call.

LW888

[Pathel]

Originally Posted by Larry Wilson

Thanks. You're right. Beautiful weather, great friends, fun things to do and many ways to help others.


I only wish I saw less bashing on here. I really don't know why I bother to post. But to be quite honest I came to the villages in 2004 and have watched this board since it started. (only checking in once in awhile). It has had a ton of meanness and has driven many people to stop posting or never post. Maybe that comes with people hiding their identity. At the same time it has many many wonderful posters.

I wish everyone a great night. And I really mean that.

And we wish you a great night, Lar. And we really mean that.

You're such a joy to play Adv Water Volleyball with.

Peace.

[The Village Girl]

Originally Posted by Larry Wilson

I only wish I saw less bashing on here. I really don't know why I bother to post.

Is someone bashing you? Do tell who it is?

Do you want I should call Guido?

[Bill-n-Brillo]

Originally Posted by The Village Girl

Is someone bashing you? Do tell who it is?

Do you want I should call Guido?

Guido? Would that be.......(wait for it).......Guido from Toledo????



Bill

[graciegirl]

Is he wearin' his .................TUXEDO?

[angiefox10]

Isn't he in charge of the...... LIDO?????

[golf4me]

Naw. ...That's Danny DiVito