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Old 03-09-2021, 10:46 PM
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One of the most serious psychological "stressors" is a major move, no matter if it IS a wonderful place.
This is so true. And almost everyone I know who has made a lifetime move from the north to the south, no matter where in the south, has spent the first month or so asking themselves, What have I done.


Don't trust your first instincts. It's like going off to college and getting homesick the first month or so. Then you're having so much fun you never want to leave.
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Old 03-10-2021, 08:25 AM
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We moved here after 44 years living in Oregon in the Portland Metro area.

Wish that we had moved to The Villages sooner!

Only missing the mountains of Oregon, until we realized it was less expensive to visit Oregon than to live there.

So many things to keep us busy here, and so many places to discover in Florida. A great place to be for our sunset years, thanks to the many new friends we've made here.

PS Moving was the most stressful thing we experienced, but that feeling disappeared quickly once we got here.
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Old 03-10-2021, 10:38 AM
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This is so true. And almost everyone I know who has made a lifetime move from the north to the south, no matter where in the south, has spent the first month or so asking themselves, What have I done.


Don't trust your first instincts. It's like going off to college and getting homesick the first month or so. Then you're having so much fun you never want to leave.
I spent the entire time our house in Connecticut was for sale, wondering "what have I done." I spent the first three months in the Villages wondering "what have I done." That feeling of abject horror and utter futility, because there is no do-over.

I still have "moments" where memories of home, memories of the back yard all the kids shared in the neighborhood growing up, memories of hiking up the Sleeping Giant Mountain, memories of keg parties and ice skating, even memories of Shakespeare class with Mr. Gerosa roleplaying a hilarious Benvolio with a secret crush on his ally, Mercutio.

And then, I realize there IS going back. I can go back any time I want, in my own memory. I can pull a memory from the DVR cloud storage of my brain and replay it any time I like.

Nothing in Florida will ever replace Autumn in New England. The pretty flowers planted by a landscaping company can't ever compare to the natural beauty of trees planted by nature. The perfect construction of plaster can't ever compare to the imperfect perfection of a log cabin. I'm raised in the suburbs, but I'm a mountain girl in my heart and nothing in Florida comes close, and never will.

The upside is, at some point in the next few years I can take a trip back home, maybe rent an RV and return to the Sleeping Giant for a few days to recharge.
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Old 03-10-2021, 10:55 AM
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I first visited here in 2010. I knew it would suit my retirement winters perfectly, but DW was not so sure. We are fortunate to have close friends who bought here and have had us visit a few times, and eventually when we did retire we rented for 3 months, then 4 months, and this year 6 months and we have just recently bought a place. Now my wife likes it here a lot. She has friends, she loves pickleball. We haven't coaxed her onto a golf course yet, but we are all working on it. Renting was a great way to rule out certain things we found we didn't want in a home, and identify what we did want, and to make a big decision is small steps.
Good luck, and remember, the road goes both ways, so if you don't like it here, you don't have to stay here.
BTW, I have an uncle who lives on Lake Pend O'reille. It's beautiful there. He lives there year 'round. I couldn't do the winters myself, if I could avoid it.
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Old 03-12-2021, 09:11 AM
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Thank you for asking the question and thank you for the answers. We are planning to be at TV in the next couple of years. I have been terrified. Not about really leaving beautiful Colorado, but downsizing my house to half the size. It is causing me to part with things that were important to me, my fathers grand piano, for example. A premier home is not in my budget. I will buy an digital I I grand when I get there. So I am working on it now to not add more Psychological pain to the move.
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Old 03-12-2021, 09:16 AM
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We wouldn’t be moving to TV if we didn’t believe that it fits us better in the later years, if it was perfect here we would be staying. Just have to acknowledge the trade offs I suspect and focus on the reasons why. Anyone need classic lunchbox or Norman Rockwell figurine collection? Just kidding, know the answers and neither do we. Only another 1500 feet to get rid of. Hoping to see you soon.
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Old 03-12-2021, 09:27 AM
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I'd rather be in your mountains or on a beach, lake, river, or any natural setting. I am only here in TV because my wife insisted. This is not her opinion; she loves every little thing about it. For me though other than the warm winter weather, it sucks.

. To each his own. As for me, I am counting the days until we can return to our lakefront home in PA.
I echo your comments. I'd rather be up north ( not during the winter). We spent a summer here in 2020. It won't happen again, good thing we keep a home in the north. I hate the intense heat where I have to change clothes 3 times per day. It's nice here but it ain't heaven either. Seems to me that's why there are many snowbirds. Guess I didn't drink enough Kool-Aid
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2021 0312 Friday @ 11:14
re: hard way of life
Stay in touch: Shooters World, 4948 CR-44A, The Villages, FL 34785 (352) 500-4867

re: as fun as it seems
The community in which you are renting is filled with amazing people from all over the world. Mickey and Minnie live about an hour away.
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Old 03-12-2021, 11:17 AM
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Dallas was simply stating facts and many of us feel this way. If one examines his statements, they are true. There are a plethora of activities to which people can run all day long in The Villages. Many of us are introverts who enjoy peace, solitude, nature involved activities and occasional get together with friends. The Villages is the antithesis to these desires. The area outside The Villages walls and local housing developments are as he described and are simply a fact.
I'm an introvert who enjoys peace, solitude, and nature-involved activities, and the opportunity to interact with other human beings without necessarily committing to deep conversations or friendships (though if a friendship forms that's great).

That's WHY I like this section of the Villages. It has all of that. No, it doesn't have mountains. And that stinks. I hate that I can't ride my bicycle to the foot of a mountain path and take a hike up for a day.

And autumn colors, of course. All the things I've already mentioned countless times.

But there is a sense of natural beauty here in the old section that doesn't seem to exist anywhere else in the Villages. Even if most of it was put here by the developer, it's not manicured and perfect like so much of the other villages. On the other hand I've heard amazing things about the walking trails south of 44, and look forward to exploring those in the next few weeks.
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Old 03-12-2021, 01:35 PM
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Just a heads up for when anyone buys and moves into a home here. Be prepared for all kinds of solicitors showing up at your door trying to sell water treatment systems, landscaping and other things. Also beware of solicitors on TOTV who are trying to get you into buying their products, especially those who keep numerous hard sell posts going, posts that on the surface appear to be informative but are actually misleading.
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We are moving because we are sick of the long winters. it is dark here at 4pm in the winter. you work all summer to get ready for the next winter. we are 25 miles from a store 50 miles from our doctor. and we were offered a ridicule's price for our house. And no would never come back to Northern Idaho
that was 1 of the reasons we bailed from Ct., HORRIBLE long, grey winters that lasted almost all year, (no lie!) other reasons were taxes & local economy. you will LOVE it here, the culture shock doesn't hurt that much because the living down here is very easy-a wonderful lifestyle with actual friendly people! idc what some say, i only met ONE person i didn't like in the 3 years we've been here. i seriously think we should have made the move long ago. will prob see you @ one of the town squares!
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I'm from New England and lived in a depression (not exactly a valley) between two mountain ranges. I was a bicycle ride away from both of them for most of my life. We had a proper Autumn (the Merritt Parkway is a designated National Scenic Route for this reason), and the usual expected 3 other seasons that are notable because each one is remarkably different from the other.

While I don't miss the Nor'easters or sub-freezing temperatures, I do miss New England. I miss the mountains, I miss Autumn. I miss apple picking at the orchard, I miss berry picking season. I miss my wild raspberries, I miss my huckleberry tree, I miss my 5 200+-year-old sugar maples in the back yard. I miss real actual Town Greens and the fairgrounds where we had food truck festivals and the International Irish Dance competition every year, and the agricultural fair during the last days of summer.

I miss driving down the main road in Wallingford to appreciate the Victorian Colonial homes all decked out in their finery for Christmas. And yes, I even miss snow (though not the icy winds that usually accompanied it).

I will ALWAYS be a New Englander. But I'm here, and it's very lovely here, there's plenty to do, or I can sit on the lanai and do nothing if I choose, and I have wonderful neighbors that make me feel like I'm "home." So I'm a New Englander whose home is Florida. I know I'm not alone in that - there are LOTS of New Englanders down here who share the same feelings of nostalgia and wistfulness of our own backgrounds.

That's one of the best things about the Villages, as opposed to any other retirement community. You can find lots of your "people" down here who share similar backgrounds, who might even be able to give their opinion on the same restaurants "back home" that you used to enjoy. They might even have attended the same football game you did the day your team clobbered the opponent in the last 8 seconds, and you can share with them your own version of the exact same play-by-play they give you from their perspective.

The facade of the Villages is just that. A facade. It's a pretty picture. But it's filled with people who are, for the most part, genuine. And many of them come from your neck of the woods, and you'll not feel lonely at all if you reach out, or accept their hand when they reach out.
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Welcome to the Villages! I think there is a "Western States club" which would be a good start for you to meet some folks. We are moving to TV this fall but we will be snowbirds. During our months renting, we found so much to appreciate. It will take you a while to figure your way around. I suggest reading the Villages Sun which helps speed up the learning process.
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