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Originally Posted by MartinSE

At 72 I am starting to forget things. And my kids always laughed at how I dress - LOL!

Depending on the magnitude of your forgetfulness it might pay to listen to them and have a chat with your doctor. As we age it gets harder and harder to form long term memories. But, like aging, it happens so slowly that it is hard for us to see, but others that don't see us every day notice more than we do.

I noticed me (and my wife noticed me) forgetting things last year. My PCP scheduled a meeting for me for a psych exam. The doctor gave me a series of tests over an hour or so, and said it is normal to begin having trouble forming long term memories as we age - everyone does. In my case the issue was greater than normal, and less than she could make a diagnosis from. So, I am scheduled to go back this year, to see how it is progressing.

Dementia is a generic term covering a lot of different types including Alzheimer's, lewd body dementia, etc etc. In my case one of the symptoms includes growing irritability. ( which is one reason I have to take vacations from here occasionally.)

I suggest being tested - in my case I want to know so I can make plans before I can't make plans.

Good luck.

PS: If your post was meant to be funny, or something, I apologize, it just struck a cord with me.

Originally Posted by MartinSE

LOL!! Yeah, my bad, typo. My fingers don't always do what my brain tells them to any more - LOL!

I thought it was a typo but figured you'd take it in good stride.

[jebartle]

Originally Posted by asianthree

Our kids and grands have never criticized about our lifestyle, our thoughts, or actions. Never correct us on something we may have missed or can’t remember. It would be an insult to do so. We would not do so in their life, so would not expect anything different

If they do have thoughts or comments, it is never to us. We raised them not to criticized, on what was not in their control. We have family discussions about small things, and major issues.


But every once in awhile you will here a Bless your heart ♥️ In one of their conversations, so they are not perfect.

Love that southern joke "Bless your heart"....

[JMintzer]

Originally Posted by Dsalmiery

Nowadays - boys dress like girls and girls dress like boys. I'll stick to "the old way" to dress!

C'mon... Take a walk ion the wild side!


- Lou Reed

[Hoosierb4]

There are some new and promising treatments for Alzheimers in development. I've seen ads for trials near The Villages for of one of the leading candidates (Simufilam, I think it's called). Just google "Rethink ALZ" to find information.

[MartinSE]

Originally Posted by Hoosierb4

There are some new and promising treatments for Alzheimers in development. I've seen ads for trials near The Villages for of one of the leading candidates (Simufilam, I think it's called). Just google "Rethink ALZ" to find information.

Thank you.

[Rwirish]

No, just you.

[ThirdOfFive]

Originally Posted by Hoosierb4

There are some new and promising treatments for Alzheimers in development. I've seen ads for trials near The Villages for of one of the leading candidates (Simufilam, I think it's called). Just google "Rethink ALZ" to find information.

Sometimes I think that advances in medicine are really a two-edged sword. We keep our bodies alive long after our ability to use that body with anything resembling normalcy flees forever. It took my dad eight years to die, cooped up in a nursing home with Parkinson's which robbed him both his mind and his body. Yes, he was alive--barely--he couldn't move, feed himself or talk, but he definitely was NOT living, in any reasonable sense of that word. That was eighteen years ago now and it hurts whenever I think about it. Had it been his choice, he definitely would NOT have chosen such an exit.

We're lucky here in TV: our personal and retail spaces are designed to maximize the functionality of a geriatric population, and the availability of activities designed for us is huge. If we CAN function then this is the best place for us: Last year my wife and I played golf with a gentleman who was 96 years old, could still hit the ball well and was a lot of fun to be with. I remember on one tee he took off his jacket, stretched, and said "that warm sun makes me feel like I'm 85 again". If I live to be 96 that would be how I would elect to age, but how many of us really have that choice? All I know is that I'm going to live every day as if it were my last, and when it comes time to check out I'll have no regrets.

[MartinSE]

Originally Posted by ThirdOfFive

Sometimes I think that advances in medicine are really a two-edged sword. We keep our bodies alive long after our ability to use that body with anything resembling normalcy flees forever. It took my dad eight years to die, cooped up in a nursing home with Parkinson's which robbed him both his mind and his body. Yes, he was alive--barely--he couldn't move, feed himself or talk, but he definitely was NOT living, in any reasonable sense of that word. That was eighteen years ago now and it hurts whenever I think about it. Had it been his choice, he definitely would NOT have chosen such an exit.

We're lucky here in TV: our personal and retail spaces are designed to maximize the functionality of a geriatric population, and the availability of activities designed for us is huge. If we CAN function then this is the best place for us: Last year my wife and I played golf with a gentleman who was 96 years old, could still hit the ball well and was a lot of fun to be with. I remember on one tee he took off his jacket, stretched, and said "that warm sun makes me feel like I'm 85 again". If I live to be 96 that would be how I would elect to age, but how many of us really have that choice? All I know is that I'm going to live every day as if it were my last, and when it comes time to check out I'll have no regrets.

I understand, I always say that quality is more important than quantity. My PCP has my living will and in it I state, no extreme measures unless they feel confident that I will regain my quality of life.

Medicine, when it fixes the problem is great, but sometimes that comes at a steep cost in quality of life.

[OhioBuckeye]

But when your children start treating you like a second rate citizen like all of a sudden they’re 5 times smarter than you, how’s that make you feel? I know things have changed but does that make your children right or smarter than you? I’m not going to get controlled by my children. I do forget sometimes but my children & grandchildren still ask me how to fix things when they screw something up!

[DaleDivine]

Be nice to your children. They're the ones that will be picking out your nursing home...

[MartinSE]

Originally Posted by OhioBuckeye

But when your children start treating you like a second rate citizen like all of a sudden they’re 5 times smarter than you, how’s that make you feel? I know things have changed but does that make your children right or smarter than you? I’m not going to get controlled by my children. I do forget sometimes but my children & grandchildren still ask me how to fix things when they screw something up!

I take it as a sign they love and care about me. Doesn't mean I agree with them, doesn't mean anyone is smarter. It means they are concerned.

[craigrmorrison]

Originally Posted by Travelingal702

Has anyone noticed that, as you age, your kids start to treat you like a child, or is it just me? When you forget something, they look at you as if you were demented. They start to make suggestions as to how you should dress, etc. Honestly, I've gotten along very well and now they are second-guessing me.

I’m sure this can be true, however as an adult child of senior parents sometimes the benefit of the doubt in grace goes along way. Remember we love you!

On the flip slide, my favorite financial guru, Dave Ramsey, refers to the “powdered butt syndrome”. If someone has powdered your butt (as a baby) they are reluctant to take advice from their children. lol

[LianneMigiano]

Originally Posted by Travelingal702

Has anyone noticed that, as you age, your kids start to treat you like a child, or is it just me? When you forget something, they look at you as if you were demented. They start to make suggestions as to how you should dress, etc. Honestly, I've gotten along very well and now they are second-guessing me.

For me it was quite the opposite. When my father had to give up his driver's license (couldn't pass the eye test) I went to live with him until we could find reliable help for him. He treated me just like I was a little girl and I was more than 50 years old!

[OhioBuckeye]

Nursing Home, then they’ll be a comment here asking how can nursing homes rob us seniors & take all our money. I’ll give all my money to my children or grandchildren to take me in. I’m not rich but not poor either. Nursing Homes are just money grabbers, they don’t care that much how you’re treated, they’re just interested in getting your money just as fast as they can before you die!

[MartinSE]

Originally Posted by OhioBuckeye

Nursing Home, then they’ll be a comment here asking how can nursing homes rob us seniors & take all our money. I’ll give all my money to my children or grandchildren to take me in. I’m not rich but not poor either. Nursing Homes are just money grabbers, they don’t care that much how you’re treated, they’re just interested in getting your money just as fast as they can before you die!

Predatory Capitalism - Capitalism gone bad.

Sadly some (most?) are warehouses that store someone until they die. They maximize profit without regard to the health and welfare of the body being stored there.

Some, do care, we had to placed my wife's mother in one in Oregon and it was fantastic. Lot of communication with us. They listened and responded to all of her mothers complains (she complained a lot of everything). And they went out of their way at the end to help my wife that flew out to be there.

It's too bad we can't make predatory capitalism illegal, it is certainly immoral.