[Lisanp@aol.com]

Don't be apprehensive...it's going to be great! The best way to meet people is to go to the clubs, classes activities, recreation that interests you. There, you will automatically meet people with similar interests. Join the Facebook groups for your village, your home state, sports team, single in the villages, etc. Get personal "business cards" printed as people like to exchange these when they meet someone new (or create a separate phone contact for yourself to share that has the information you wish to communicate - first name, last initial, village you live in, cell number and email). Do go to the bars/restaurants and sit at the bar (even if you just have a soda) or eat dinner/an appetizer at the bar as a single. Talk to everyone you meet - it's uncomfortable for many but everyone is so friendly that it becomes real easy real soon. The main point here is just to get out of the house. I am not single, but my husband travels a lot and I frequently go out solo but I am never alone for long. Most importantly, give it time. You will build a great social network, but it does take time and effort to get there. Good luck and have the best time as you begin the new phase of your life!

[jimjamuser]

Originally Posted by La lamy

If a single man approached me while I was half naked with my eyes closed resting on a lounge chair at the pool, I would find it crazy creepy. Maybe while people are standing in the pool you could strike up a conversation, but I think there are much more appropriate ways to meet people to date. I think the suggestions of joining groups/hobbies/sports you like is the way to go.

I think that a swimming pool is a great place to meet people, better than a bar. People are more relaxed and the activity of swimming can encourage conversations. Your local neighbors are there at least the active ones. As far as sports go .......softball is big, but the teams are not usually mixed. Tennis leagues have many female participants. There are coed volleyball leagues. Pickleball can be coed. And if you get very desperate, you could take up Golf. And I forgot that water volleyball is coed and can be a lot of fun and refreshing in the summer HEAT.

[dclemmons]

There are thousands of clubs. Jump in.

[Macevoyja]

Originally Posted by Lottoguy

Our outdoor shuffleboard tem the Blackjacks needs a couple of players. We play north of 466 on Wednesday's at 1:00pm. Lots of fun and a great way to meet people. If interested let me know.

I’m interested. I live north of 466. Thanks. Judy

Originally Posted by shut the front door

When you are looking to take advice on a message board, it's a good idea to look at how many posts the person giving you advice has. If their post count is extremely high, like many here, just count that as somebody who doesn't get out of the house much. You aren't moving here to sit behind a computer padding your post count.
You would be better served to get advice from people who get out and about.

One might see advice coming from a 2020 totv joiner with 753 posts. Thats funny - roughly 188 posts a year. Would that many posts fall under part time go getter part time sit arounder? Asking for a fun seeker.

"Do as I say not as I do" comes to mind.

Good luck with your transition Greg. You will find so much to do in T V AND still have time to post on totv.

[Karmanng]

Originally Posted by lladoogag

Hello, moving in on the 4th of October. Single with no family in the state. Looking to make new friends and possibly dating. Kind of lost and a bit apprehensive on how to adjust and find my place in the villages. Any suggestions or advice would surely be appreciated

Greg

Im single its a bit hard I find to make friends here only 2 are younger than me the rest of course is older.......shoot me a email ! cg517@hotmail.com

[fleckins]

This is the first time I heard about a post count. I am shocked to see some of the numbers. You learn something new every day!

Originally Posted by shut the front door

When you are looking to take advice on a message board, it's a good idea to look at how many posts the person giving you advice has. If their post count is extremely high, like many here, just count that as somebody who doesn't get out of the house much. You aren't moving here to sit behind a computer padding your post count.
You would be better served to get advice from people who get out and about.

[Shipping up to Boston]

Originally Posted by fleckins

This is the first time I heard about a post count. I am shocked to see some of the numbers. You learn something new every day!

I am ‘shocked’....(maybe not) that there are some that still haven’t heard about smart phones, tablets, work laptops...that anybody can use to post from anywhere. Case in point, one of our more prolific members, GE, has been posting from Zimbabwe. Yes, not everybody is tied down here...many of us are still employed , travel and own multiple residences and contributing to our communities. The tired narrative by some...not all, that people are isolated in their collective Villages says more about their demo....and generation than it does to those who participate on a regular basis. Or as our moms would say...we can walk and chew gum at the same time! Secondly, the post was about single life in the Villages.....not other members envy of, vitriol towards and obsession with those with more humor, intelligence, creativity, originality and candor!

[jimjamuser]

Originally Posted by lladoogag

Hello, moving in on the 4th of October. Single with no family in the state. Looking to make new friends and possibly dating. Kind of lost and a bit apprehensive on how to adjust and find my place in the villages. Any suggestions or advice would surely be appreciated

Greg

It is hot as hell right now so you will be able to decide if you want to be here in the summer. Some people like the HEAT and some don't. Be sure to put on sun block when you go to the pool or any activity in the full sun - especially if you are coming here from up North. Go out at night to the squares for the entertainment and to get used to the heat for the 1st 3 days here. Get a bike or E-bike to drive around the neighborhood and maybe meet some neighbors and see what activities that you have in your neighborhood. Go to the closest REC center and look it over and get an activities guide there. Think of that guide as your Bible for activities.

[rjm1cc]

In the morning or evening take a walk around your "block" and try and start up a conversation with anyone you meet. As mentioned dog walkers might be easer to get to know since you can ask a question about the dog or maybe you are thinking of getting a dog but don't know anything about them.

[Susan Garbarino]

Originally Posted by lladoogag

Hello, moving in on the 4th of October. Single with no family in the state. Looking to make new friends and possibly dating. Kind of lost and a bit apprehensive on how to adjust and find my place in the villages. Any suggestions or advice would surely be appreciated

Greg

In addition to (The Daily Sun insert) Recreation News -

Check out https://www.districtgov.org/images/d...bs-Listing.pdf

You can join some of the singles clubs.

You can be as busy and as involved as you want to be!

Welcome!

[yankygrl]

Originally Posted by lladoogag

Hello, moving in on the 4th of October. Single with no family in the state. Looking to make new friends and possibly dating. Kind of lost and a bit apprehensive on how to adjust and find my place in the villages. Any suggestions or advice would surely be appreciated

Greg

There is a club called Single in The Villages “SITV”. You could check them out. Many play trivia at Belle Glade on Wednesdays.

[JerryLBell]

Welcome to The Villages! It looks like you made it here just in time for your first hurricane! The winds are likely to be scary but you'll be amazed at how good the water management here handles what would be flood waters in a lot of other places. After this, you'll just have to stick around long enough for love bug season in the spring (the fall love bug season is largely over) and the combination of heat and humidity that is a Florida summer and you'll be a native in no time! Make sure to start the process to get your homestead exception on property taxes ASAP!

[Pairadocs]

Originally Posted by lladoogag

Hello, moving in on the 4th of October. Single with no family in the state. Looking to make new friends and possibly dating. Kind of lost and a bit apprehensive on how to adjust and find my place in the villages. Any suggestions or advice would surely be appreciated

Greg

Don't have first hand knowledge so maybe should not add advice, but noticed there are a LOT of singles groups in the villages. I know our church has a very active and large singles group, they have regular golf outings, so to concerts, plays, etc. in Orlando and Tampa, and I suspect most churches of every denomination have similar. The villages weekly rec paper (it's also on line) has many MANY singles groups listed. It's probably a matter of attending some that are not a good fit until you find those that interest you. Certainly plenty of groups to try here.