[duffysmom]

Originally Posted by CFrance

I have to agree with rubicon on this one , Dee. Two reasons: I don't want a "fluffy" forum; and I think we should all debate/speak our minds and let the moderator decide who the offenders are.

Much as I respect you, Dee, your post asking for the cessation of negative posts actually became a negative post with your examples of what you are thinking but won't say for a month!

Originally Posted by Barefoot

I just read all 42 posts on this thread, and I find myself agreeing with CFrance. I think everyone should speak their mind and let the Moderators decide who is offending. I often see posts deleted by the Moderators. I think they are doing a good job. They certainly take all complaints from members seriously.

At the same time, I do believe we members should assume all posts are factual, whether the writer has 1 post or 1000 posts. Unless it's something really trollish, like a 20 year old woman wondering if there are any sugar daddies available in The Villages.

Sometimes I dislike what people say and how they say it but I respect their right to say how they truly feel. I have the ability to take what I like and leave the rest.

[CFrance]

Originally Posted by duffysmom

Sometimes I dislike what people say and how they say it but I respect their right to say how they truly feel. I have the ability to take what I like and leave the rest.

I wish they would put Like AND Dislike buttons on the forum. You could express your opinion without saying anything offensive.

[swimdawg]

Originally Posted by CFrance

I wish they would put Like AND Dislike buttons on the forum. You could express your opinion without saying anything offensive.

LIKE

[Peachie]

Originally Posted by CFrance

I have to agree with rubicon on this one , Dee. Two reasons: I don't want a "fluffy" forum; and I think we should all debate/speak our minds and let the moderator decide who the offenders are.

Much as I respect you, Dee, your post asking for the cessation of negative posts actually became a negative post with your examples of what you are thinking but won't say for a month!

CFrance and Barefoot, I wholeheartedly agree with the two of you; I think muffling the voices of TOTV will turn this forum into "The Talk of the Milk Toast" forum. Honestly, how many people want to tune in for primarily to read "For Sale" ads and questions about good contractors in The Villages?

It may be reasonable to ask that newer posters receive some slack in the tone in which they are greeted but it's not unreasonable to request they offer more details when announcing major issues. Compromise in tone of discussion and detailed information seems possible.

There have been major discussions on this board, some in which I have participated. I believe many of us involved in different points of view have a lot to learn from each other. There may be small incidences of rancor but, I personally always continue to mentally reload the cases that have been made on this forum and rethink my own position.

I believe the viewpoints shared on this forum are very important to all of us even though they don't always mesh with my own. I don't have any malice toward the people with whom I have disagreed and realize we may not have much in common as close friends. Still I respect their right to voice their opinion and to offer us their validation for their opinion. We are all part of the human fabric in this world.

I'd hate to see this become a forum of little ole people primarily discussing the weather. Good evening to all of you.

[swimdawg]

Originally Posted by Peachie

CFrance and Barefoot, I wholeheartedly agree with the two of you; I think muffling the voices of TOTV will turn this forum into "The Talk of the Milk Toast" forum. Honestly, how many people want to tune in for primarily to read "For Sale" ads and questions about good contractors in The Villages?

It may be reasonable to ask that newer posters receive some slack in the tone in which they are greeted but it's not unreasonable to request they offer more details when announcing major issues. Compromise in tone of discussion and detailed information seems possible.

There have been major discussions on this board, some in which I have participated. I believe many of us involved in different points of view have a lot to learn from each other. There may be small incidences of rancor but, I personally always continue to reload the cases that have been made on this forum and rethink my own position.

I believe the viewpoints shared on this forum are very important to all of us even though they don't always mesh with my own. I don't have any malice toward the people with whom I have disagreed and realize we may not have much in common as close friends. Still I respect their right to voice their opinion and to offer us their validation for their opinion.

I'd hate to see this become a forum of little ole people primarily discussing the weather. Good evening to all of you.

LIKE

[Xavier]

Originally Posted by billethkid

i can't wait for January then at least there won't be a negative comment about the nature of a political forum

Uh, we haven't all agreed to play yet!

Xavier

[swimdawg]

Originally Posted by Xavier

Uh, we haven't all agreed to play yet!

Xavier

Hmmmm....tough call.
LIKE and DISLIKE

[eweissenbach]

Originally Posted by foodcritic

Got it. So when someone says I'm considering not moving to TV because the pesticides they spray will cause cancer, the answer should be ?

The answer should be........

"I am positive that you are an idiot, and I mean that in the kindest possible way!"

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by eweissenbach

The answer should be........

"I am positive that you are an idiot, and I mean that in the kindest possible way!"

Ed. You are the soul of diplomacy.

[angiefox10]

I'm not under the impression that anyone is saying you can't disagree with anyone. I think, and I could be wrong, the idea is to disagree with someone without calling names. Without stating that if you don't agree with me you are "childish" or "selfish".

Sometimes, if you disagree, can you just not comment? If you do, can you do it in a kind way?

Maybe something isn't to your taste? Do you really feel you have to state it every time?

If someone posts something.. There isn't anything wrong with asking for more information. But can you do it without calling them a liar? "I don't believe you" It's OK if you don't, but do you feel the need to say it every time. Is it always important to prove the other person wrong..... Well sure, the homes were broken into... but they didn't kick the door in on all of them.

I'm not trying to go after anyone in this post. I'm just saying, there isn't it possible to be nice without giving up your point of view?

[njbchbum]

Originally Posted by Peachie

CFrance and Barefoot, I wholeheartedly agree with the two of you; I think muffling the voices of TOTV will turn this forum into "The Talk of the Milk Toast" forum. Honestly, how many people want to tune in for primarily to read "For Sale" ads and questions about good contractors in The Villages?

It may be reasonable to ask that newer posters receive some slack in the tone in which they are greeted but it's not unreasonable to request they offer more details when announcing major issues. Compromise in tone of discussion and detailed information seems possible.

There have been major discussions on this board, some in which I have participated. I believe many of us involved in different points of view have a lot to learn from each other. There may be small incidences of rancor but, I personally always continue to mentally reload the cases that have been made on this forum and rethink my own position.

I believe the viewpoints shared on this forum are very important to all of us even though they don't always mesh with my own. I don't have any malice toward the people with whom I have disagreed and realize we may not have much in common as close friends. Still I respect their right to voice their opinion and to offer us their validation for their opinion. We are all part of the human fabric in this world.

I'd hate to see this become a forum of little ole people primarily discussing the weather. Good evening to all of you.

I wholeheartedly agree! Furthermore, asking me to refrain from speaking my mind/feelings is like asking me to remove my creche from the lawn at Christmas because it might offend a neighbor. I simply cannot give up some things because another might be offended...even if for a little while.

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by njbchbum

I wholeheartedly agree! Furthermore, asking me to refrain from speaking my mind/feelings is like asking me to remove my creche from the lawn at Christmas because it might offend a neighbor. I simply cannot give up some things because another might be offended...even if for a little while.

You are right. Some things just shouldn't be hushed.

[lightworker888]

If we consider the intent behind Redwitch's suggestion, I read it as a desire to somehow stop the apparent "negativity" that is felt by some of our community. That may be a personal perception, but it is nevertheless valid for those who feel this way. The request for more consideration and some thought before typing seems to me to be reasonable for any forum and shouldn't stop anyone from posting.

There are people who are harsher than others when conversing with others and their comments, as all comments do, tell us more about them than about what they are commenting on. It is good practice for us all to be able to hear another''s differing opinion and recognize that that is all it is...an opinion. Everyone has their own view of the world and it is not wrong, just different. No one has to find someone to support their view in order for it to be OK to have the view. The challenge is to not take comments personally. They are just another person's opinion and usually come from people who have no understanding about the other person's history or all the facts about the scenerio.

I'd like to support more kindness and consideration on the board, while encouraging all posters to post what is on their mind pertaining to any thread. As a senior community i would hope that we could all find it within ourselves to be civil with each other. We are all wanting more peace,I think, so maybe we can see it happen on this board, at least for a month!

Off my soapbox and to bed.....Night all

LW888

[elizabeth52]

Originally Posted by CFrance

I wish they would put Like AND Dislike buttons on the forum. You could express your opinion without saying anything offensive.

If there were, I would "like" your post!

[Carl in Tampa]

Originally Posted by angiefox10

I'm not under the impression that anyone is saying you can't disagree with anyone.

Well, yes, I think that is precisely what red witch was saying.

Quote: "If someone says something you disagree with, you thank them for their opinion and keep your negative thoughts to yourself?"

I don't think she is going to get a consensus on this proposal.

But, who knows? It isn't January yet...........