[Cisco Kid]

You left Bass boat off the list

[anarick]

Originally Posted by graciegirl

What traits are those that matter when you pick friends? A little, or a lot, or not at all?

Age

Gender

General health

Sense of humor

Sense of responsiblity towards rules

How they look

How they dress

Amount of money

Level of success

Educational background

Religion

Political leaning

Acceptance of differences in others.

Size of home

Value family

Value pets

Smoking or not smoking

Drinking or not drinking.



Add to the list if your think of something.

non-condescending

they are not dream slashers

like minded/similar interests

to name a few but I tend to agree with some of the posters in that friendships tend to evolve. You get a sense of acceptance when a person passes by your home with a smile and a golfcart asking you to accompany them to where ever just to spend some time with you or shoot the breeze.
I think that's really cool.

[CFrance]

Originally Posted by Golfingnut

Kind and not selfish.
Happy and not Grumpy
Half full and not half empty
Optimist and not pessimist
Respect Authority not Fear it
Non Smoker
Not prejudice
No Carry Permit
No Extremists
No Fanatics.

OK OK I'll quit.

Be my friend, Golfingnut!

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by DougB

You can't be serious with that list???? Size of home, age, how they look, how they dress, amount of money, educational background, etc. I was looking for the LOL after it.

WHOA NELLIE.

These are not the traits I use to pick friends, just a couple of them,

I am drawn toward people who seem to like me and I love them if they can laugh about things and are responsible folks and it is essential to me that they are kind.

Some people DO choose friends on appearances. It MATTERS to them how you dress or if you are overweight or OLD.

I made that list because I have observed all of those things as a criteria for friendships of other folks in my lifetime.

[DougB]

Hi Gracie.
I stated in a later post that I did not think that was a list you would use. I tend to agree that we don't choose our friends. Friends are something that just "happens".

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by DougB

Hi Gracie.
I stated in a later post that I did not think that was a list you would use. I tend to agree that we don't choose our friends. Friends are something that just "happens".

Whew.

I thought maybe I had been kicked off of your potential friend list.

Thank you Doug.

Fanning herself, Gracie.

[Dr Winston O Boogie jr]

Originally Posted by alemorkam

I really dont think you pick friends. I think it just happens. A friend could come from anywhere at anytime. I think we just know when it happens.

I agree. I don't know of anyone who goes out with a list of qualities or traits and decides whether someone will be their friend based on that list.

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by Dr Winston O Boogie jr

I agree. I don't know of anyone who goes out with a list of qualities or traits and decides whether someone will be their friend based on that list.

You are right of course, but some things are deal breakers for me. I shy away from people who speak very negatively of others a lot. Because I know I will be on that list soon. I need to have people overlook a lot in me and I just could not hang around with people who don't respect the rules...laws....others possessions....and are dishonest, unless they tell me that I am looking younger.

[JoeC1947]

Originally Posted by graciegirl

You are right of course, but some things are deal breakers for me. I shy away from people who speak very negatively of others a lot. Because I know I will be on that list soon. I need to have people overlook a lot in me and I just could not hang around with people who don't respect the rules...laws....others possessions....and are dishonest, unless they tell me that I am looking younger.

You don't look a day over 12,966 posts!

[ugotme]

Geez - that's a toughie!

I think (as stated previously) it just kinda "happens!"

Though sometimes you meet someone and enjoy his/her company and then you realize that they are not the person you thought. I may "hang around" a while to see if I have been erroneous in my judgement. If not, eventually you will both seem to part ways.

Of course, this works in the opposite fashion also. Usually first impressions can tell a a lot. However, I have met people who I was initially leery of but then went on to become good friends.

WHO KNOWS????

[2BNTV]

I choose who becomes a close friend by the feeling you get by being around them. Are they good, decent, honorable people who are doing the right thing by others. That want to be treated with the same kindness they show others.
That you share somethings in common and have a sense of humor that you can kid around with them. Are they there for you when you need advice/help as you would be for them.

I have made several close friends that have become like family. They are warm, caring and loving type people who are well respected in their families and community. They have helped me through difficult times and I was there when they needed help. I fondly remember all the good times we had together and will have in the future.

The world is a better place with these wonderful people in it.

[ugotme]

You see - here is an example:

Now I know that I could NEVER like 2BNTV - not friend material !!!!

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by ugotme

You see - here is an example:

Now I know that I could NEVER like 2BNTV - not friend material !!!!

I agree.

He is just the kind of person that I KNOW would be my friend.

And so are you, ugotme!

[BarryRX]

Kind souls

[ugotme]

Originally Posted by graciegirl

I agree.

He is just the kind of person that I KNOW would be my friend.

And so are you, ugotme!

Awww shucks GG - now you are making me BLUSH !

And, of course, right back atcha !!!!