[Beyond The Wall]

If you were concerned, just get up and leave and state loudly WHY your leaving. That will get their attention.
If you go to a square and feel unsafe, leave. If you go to a store and feel unsafe, leave.
HOWEVER, if we continue to trash business in TV ,you won’t have any.
Most restaurant's in TV do not have great service. Great servers work where people tip, not leave pocket change.

[HeleneGB]

I agree with you 100% on all points.

[Bethwill]

40 years ago I was a waitress in a nice restaurant. We were not allowed to wear nail polish to work because it hid whether or not our nails were clean. BTW, I made a lot of money at that job, while lazy others did not. We did not 'pool' tips, and made money according to the service provided. I hate that most restaurants now pool tips. Very unfair, to all workers.

[Marathon Man]

Originally Posted by Beyond The Wall

If you were concerned, just get up and leave and state loudly WHY your leaving. That will get their attention.
If you go to a square and feel unsafe, leave. If you go to a store and feel unsafe, leave.
HOWEVER, if we continue to trash business in TV ,you won’t have any.
Most restaurant's in TV do not have great service. Great servers work where people tip, not leave pocket change.

Because that you make you look like a reasonable person?

[Joelack99]

Dirt under super-long fingernails (on any person) is totally gross, and a complaint to management—perhaps, when you are leaving—totally appropriate. However, I fail to see any relevance to mentioning BLM masks, piercings and long hair held by clips if you are not making a racist point.

[Gulfcoast]

If the guy had a furry tail attached to his backside, kitten ears on his head and a kitty cat whisker mask on his face, would the Op be wrong in pointing those details out? If you've ever seen a "Furry" you will know that some folks dress like that.

My point is, there is a time and a place for self expression and a server job isn't one of those times. When you've been hired to do a job you go by the dress code established by your employer. If a manager is allowing the dress code to slack big time, then maybe a complaint to corporate is warranted. Obviously the manager is aware of what his/her employers are wearing and is choosing to not say anything about it. It's not the customer's job to scold management into compliance.

[Villageswimmer]

Management problem. Expectations should have been made clear, verbally and in writing, before he was offered the job, then reviewed when the employee came to work. You can’t assume people have common sense. Often, they need clear direction.

OPs failure to discuss with management solved nothing.

[Bill14564]

Some big assumptions being made in these posts.

The OP took exception to his appearance but no one else seems to have noticed so could it have been that out of the ordinary?

Were the fingernails truly long or just longer than the OP was accustomed to? The OP didn't mention any dirt under the nails, only the length and what could have been under them. So again, were they long and dirty or just not what the OP was accustomed to?

If the long (too long for a man?) hair was held back by clips (sparkly or otherwise) then is there a different standard for men's and women's hair? It probably met the requirements of both the health code and the restaurant.

Where was it stated that the server's appearance did not meet the dress code of the establishment?

And some of the other ____ist and ___phobic comments in these replies say more about the person who chose to post them than they do about the server.

[tvbound]

If the complaint were solely about long fingernails and would have honestly been made regardless of gender, that's one thing. The fact that all of the rest was purposely and pointedly included, leaves no doubt as to the true intention of the complaint - as I see it anyway.

[Fromtherock]

Good point. If this was a woman would you be making the same comment ?

[Gulfcoast]

Originally Posted by Bill14564

Some big assumptions being made in these posts.

The OP took exception to his appearance but no one else seems to have noticed so could it have been that out of the ordinary?

Were the fingernails truly long or just longer than the OP was accustomed to? The OP didn't mention any dirt under the nails, only the length and what could have been under them. So again, were they long and dirty or just not what the OP was accustomed to?

If the long (too long for a man?) hair was held back by clips (sparkly or otherwise) then is there a different standard for men's and women's hair? It probably met the requirements of both the health code and the restaurant.

Where was it stated that the server's appearance did not meet the dress code of the establishment?

And some of the other ____ist and ___phobic comments in these replies say more about the person who chose to post them than they do about the server.

We don't know the establishment so of course we don't know what the dress code is. We do know that the Op complained to "corporate" and just the fact that there is a corporate to complain to means that this is likely a chain of some sort. Most chain restaurants do have dress code policies. Using only logic, common sense and my own previous experience as a server - this guy would have been in violation of the dress code policy at 99% of the chain restaurants out there.

If there is no such dress code standards at this particular restaurant then the guy wasn't in violation and Op simply needs to find someplace else to dine.

[Byte1]

No one really wants to see how the sausage is made. How many folks go back in the kitchen to check out the cooks' attire and hygiene?
Don't get me wrong, I probably would have gotten up and vacated the scene. I never send food back to the kitchen. I just give my comment when I check out, or I get up and leave before eating. I have a favorite fast food place and twice I received cold food. When I left, the cashier asked me how my meal was and I told her. She offered a discount and I refused it saying that I merely told the truth and that it had happened on two occasions. I told her that since I had eaten there on a regular basis and the food was always good, it was a constructive comment, not a condemnation. I said this as low as I could since there were many folks waiting to be seated. The food was always good after that, so either they rectified the glitch or it was just a coincidence.

In this instance, I probably would have left without eating there. I do not wish to be reminded of the BLM cretins and I do not wish to be served by someone with poor hygiene. Call me racist or homophobic if you wish but learn the correct definition before misusing the terms. But, don't get into the habit of using labels too much because one day you may say something similar to someone's face and not just anonymously on the Internet.

[Kdixon1260]

As a former restaurant owner I will say your half right. Order takers and food delivery people make poor tips. But well trained and proper speaking servers, waiters, and Waitresses make fantastic money. I only hired high end personal which made my sports grill the most successful in my city. I never allow political views to be displayed either

[Dr Winston O Boogie jr]

Originally Posted by Happinow

People bitchin because negative talk about restaurants can have an impact on the restaurant. Figured we’ve all see this at one restaurant or another. This is the second restaurant I’ve seen this type of thing at.

It should have an impact on the restaurant. If the food is bad, the service not up to standards and it is not clean, people should know about it before deciding to go there. If the restaurant or any business for that matter is not doing right by its customers it either needs to straighten itself out or go out of business.

[Dr Winston O Boogie jr]

Originally Posted by Gulfcoast

We don't know the establishment so of course we don't know what the dress code is. We do know that the Op complained to "corporate" and just the fact that there is a corporate to complain to means that this is likely a chain of some sort. Most chain restaurants do have dress code policies. Using only logic, common sense and my own previous experience as a server - this guy would have been in violation of the dress code policy at 99% of the chain restaurants out there.

If there is no such dress code standards at this particular restaurant then the guy wasn't in violation and Op simply needs to find someplace else to dine.

And let the rest of us know so that we don't go there.