[twinkletoes]

I agree with you, no sharing unless the group decides to share an appetizer before ordering but when they say they don't want an appetizer then they should not expect to have some of yours. Same as when everyone says they don't want dessert then everyone wants just a little bite of yours. Don't mean to sound selfish.

[rick2071]

Did they offer to share the expense? I'll bet no, anyway it's your appetizer so eat and enjoy.

[ajdeck]

Originally Posted by Talk Host

I would like some opinions on an argu.. ah discussion that my wife and I are having. Let's see if I can explain this.

In a restaurant for dinner. There are two, three or four couples. As the pre-order discussion is had, it's said by someone (let's say me) "is anybody going to order an appetizer." Then all in attendance say "no."

Then I say, (example at BoneFish Grill) "I am going to have an order of the Bang Bang Shrimp" (which I love. That's the only thing there I really like)

Then, MY appetizer arrives, my wife thinks it's proper to share it around the table. I say it isn't.

Recently, six people, I was the only one to order a calamari appetizer. When it came, it got shared around the table, and by the time it got back to me, there were two little pieces left.

My position is that if they want something, they should order it. My wife's position is "what are you going to do, sit there and eat it in front of everybody without offering it?"

JLK

When I order the Bang Bang, I have same problem. So what I do is order one and see if anyone (or how much) wants any, if so and I need more I just order another one for me.

Now that said (and why should I have to pay twice), when I go with same couple(s) to somewhere else I always enjoy their "starter".

Seems this has changed how many want to enjoy mine.

Selfish ---- aren't I

aj

[Tickled_pink]

Quote from Mikeod:
Reminds me of a story about my folks. My dad would often order a desert and my mom would ask for a taste. (She was always on a diet.) Then another, then another until she had at least half his desert, if not more. He would just sit there and smile and watch her eat. The giveaway was that he would often order a desert she would like, so having only half or less was just fine for him and he loved watching her enjoy the desert.

What a sweet father you had Mike. I'm going to strive to be more like him. Thanks for sharing!

[graciegirl]

Mothers day is coming soon.

Remember what your Mother said.

Share nice now.

[jblum315]

Some appetizers - for example the onion rings at OakHouse - are too big for any one person to eat. But I do think people who often eat together should take turns ordering and sharing an appetizer.

[The Great Fumar]

If I want an appetizer , I'll order an appetizer, I don't need someone encouraging me to order an appetizer............and if I don't order any then I certainly wouldn't partake of someone elses.........

taste the soup fumar

[skyguy79]

Originally Posted by The Great Fumar

If I want an appetizer , I'll order an appetizer, I don't need someone encouraging me to order an appetizer............and if I don't order any then I certainly wouldn't partake of someone elses.........

taste the soup fumar

[Pturner]

Originally Posted by 2BNTV

Order clam chowder with several straws is a good way to share.

Now that reminds me of a fun family dinner at an Italian restaurant a few years ago. Waitress asks if we would like wine before dinner. I ordered a red Zinfandel. My Dad, may he rest in peace, said he didn't know there was a red Zin. So the waitress asked him if he would like one. He said, "no, but I'll taste hers."

Now, older brother's turn. Trying to be funny, he said, "No, but I'll taste some of hers." Next, the waitress asked SIL, and keeping up the humor, she said, "No, but I'll taste some of hers".

On down the line it went, everybody at the table responding the same.

Without blinking an eye, the waitress said, "Okay, that'll be one wine and nine straws."

[Bill-n-Brillo]

Originally Posted by Pturner

Now that reminds me of a fun family dinner at an Italian restaurant a few years ago. Waitress asks if we would like wine before dinner. I ordered a red Zinfandel. My Dad, may he rest in peace, said he didn't know there was a red Zin. So the waitress asked him if he would like one. He said, "no, but I'll taste hers."

Now, older brother's turn. Trying to be funny, he said, "No, but I'll taste some of hers." Next, the waitress asked SIL, and keeping up the humor, she said, "No, but I'll taste some of hers".

On down the line it went, everybody at the table responding the same.

Without blinking an eye, the waitress said, "Okay, that'll be one wine and nine straws."

So was there any left for you, p???

Bill

[Pturner]

Originally Posted by Bill-n-Brillo

So was there any left for you, p???

Bill

lol. I think I finally got a taste from the third bottle. just kidding.

[barb1191]

What seems to work for us is separate checks AND if one chooses to order just an appetizer for their meal, they request that it be served along with the other meals ordered at their table, and not before. Thus, everyone is eating their own order and need not share with the table. Problem? What problem?

[Russ_Boston]

This is one of those issues that I've never run across before until TV.

Since most of the time in TV we have separate checks (that in itself is a new concept to me) I just order what I want, eat it when I want and share it if I want. And if someone said "hey can I try a little of that (appetizer) I say 'sure'! Don't really see the issue.

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by Russ_Boston

This is one of those issues that I've never run across before until TV.

Since most of the time in TV we have separate checks (that in itself is a new concept to me) I just order what I want, eat it when I want and share it if I want. And if someone said "hey can I try a little of that (appetizer) I say 'sure'! Don't really see the issue.

You are right of course. We do have a little too much time on our hands.

[TrudyM]

I have noticed that peoples attitudes toward sharing and who pays can really change over time. When visiting people I hadn't seen in a few years I noticed, that the same people that in years past always put in their share towards the check and were mindful of the cost of what they ordered; now order the most expensive thing on the menu and assume the member of our party that sold his business for a nice profit a few years back will pick up the bill. My husband slid him our share and paid the tip. Afterwards I said to his wife I couldn't belive no one even offered to leave the tip. She said it had been that way ever since they had sold the business. Isn't it rude to assume that the rich guy is going to pick up the tab. We were probably the couple with the least money attending that weekend and we wouldn't have gone if we didn't intend to pay our share.