[tippyclubb]

Originally Posted by Trish Crocker

I'm really not getting any of this. Why is there so much sensitivity and hurt feelings? It is clearly a joke. I thought I was talking with a bunch of people that just wanted to express their pleasure with living in TV...now it's getting to be like high school. Do we really have to be that careful of everything we post? I didn't, at any time, see anyone insulting or ridiculing anyone. Think I may go back to just lurking...I'm getting paranoid about posting.

Trish please don't go back to lurking as I enjoy your post and sense of humor and I'm sure others do too. I too took it as a joke but obviously the word clique is upsetting to some and understandably so.

It seems no matter where you go in social situations there are always going to be cliques, that is just the way life is. I have ran across cliques countless times throughout life. Most times I am able to join the clique if I choose too. The question becomes which group of people do I want to be friends with. Who do I enjoy being with the most and share the same interest I do. When you think of it that way its not really a clique, rather a group of people you choose to associate with.

As for the forum and the sensitivity on this subject and many other topics, that is normal. Anytime you have a lot of people they will have different opinions and that is okay too.

Keep posting and being you !

[Schaumburger]

Originally Posted by tippyclubb

Trish please don't go back to lurking as I enjoy your post and sense of humor and I'm sure others do too. I too took it as a joke but obviously the word clique is upsetting to some and understandably so.

It seems no matter where you go in social situations there are always going to be cliques, that is just the way life is. I have ran across cliques countless times throughout life. Most times I am able to join the clique if I choose too. The question becomes which group of people do I want to be friends with. Who do I enjoy being with the most and share the same interest I do. When you think of it that way its not really a clique, rather a group of people you choose to associate with.

As for the forum and the sensitivity on this subject and many other topics, that is normal. Anytime you have a lot of people they will have different opinions and that is okay too.

Keep posting and being you !

Trish, I agree with TippyClubb. And I enjoy reading everyone's posts on TOTV.

[graciegirl]

Trish. Your kindness and warmth belong here and tippyclubb your good common sense is needed and helpful to all of us.

I will be so grateful to hear more of what you both have to say on any subject.

Kindest wishes,

Gracie

[senior citizen]

Originally Posted by ilovetv

it's about posts #111 and #153 in the rats and alligators thread......and how tony the moderator said on july 6 to "stop frisking people at the door and trying to run them off" by raising suspicion about posters' identity and implying their motives are nasty (for saying something is not all sunshine, lollipops and rainbows here in tv). That was in the thread, "everybody seems to love the villages, i would like to hear what you hate..."

people in the rats and alligators thread sympathized with patlyn, who says she's done with this board and will not come back, because her identity and motives were questioned and made to look suspicious for posting concerns about seeing more rats lately. A few others agreed that there is indeed a "clique" (inner circle) here.

I thought "frisking people at the door" described it well. Just because you know more about tv or don't like somebody's opinion does not mean they should be treated as "suspect" or shunned when posting a comment or question.

I'm going to duck now, because of incoming rotten tomatoes.

very very very well said.............

[momesu]

Hmmmm....as one who was always on the outside of the inner circle as a child, teen, and young adult.....probably as even a middle adult I am finally getting used to my seat out here in left field.....it's kind of cozy watching everyone else compete.....the only thing is I need some popcorn or ice cream every now and then to stay happy. Unfortunately I sometimes think my quirky sense of humor is what has put me in left field.....some people just don't get it and in my humble opinion just don't know how to relax and not take life, themselves or others so seriously....that all said I love reading peoples opinions and thoughts here on TOTV. I also love a lot of the humor I see here. Keep it up and I hope one day to meet many of you in person.

Now as to that clique.....I'm not sure I would now how to behave if I was inside that inner circle.....could someone teach me????

Suzanne

[Bill-n-Brillo]

Originally Posted by momesu

.....the only thing is I need some popcorn or ice cream every now and then to stay happy. .....

Here ya go!!



Bill

[skyguy79]

Originally Posted by Bill-n-Brillo

Here ya go!!



Bill

With your supply of popcorn, you only gave ice cream? Sheeze!!!

[momesu]

Originally Posted by Bill-n-Brillo

Here ya go!!



Bill

ohhhhh thanks! He's so cute!

Suzanne

[Bill-n-Brillo]

Originally Posted by Bill-n-Brillo

Here ya go!!



Bill

Originally Posted by skyguy79

With your supply of popcorn, you only gave ice cream? Sheeze!!!

Hey skyguy - you overlooked the little popcorn guy!! See above.

Suzanne - Glad you liked it!

Bill

[ssmith]

Just a quick thought, you mentioned that there are many cliques at events there in TV. Is that unusual. I guess what I mean is that I have moved often and find it takes some time to break into the crowd of regulars....not that they exclude on purpose but just don't go over board to include newbes. Is that the case there? Seems you have persevered. Also wonder if this is more prevalent if you live in a very long established neighborhood?

[JAV0108]

Originally Posted by ssmith

Just a quick thought, you mentioned that there are many cliques at events there in TV. Is that unusual. I guess what I mean is that I have moved often and find it takes some time to break into the crowd of regulars....not that they exclude on purpose but just don't go over board to include newbes. Is that the case there? Seems you have persevered. Also wonder if this is more prevalent if you live in a very long established neighborhood?

After going back and re-reading EVERYTHING on how this all got started I feel like I overstepped my bounds with my vent. Sorry about that, didn't mean to cause negativity. I love TV and wouldn't want to live anywhere else. Although I do not post very often and am mainly a "lurker" I am real and not a trouble maker on TOTV. Everyone is right, there are cliques everywhere and I have come so very far regarding being strong and persevering in my endeavors into all the activities I want to get involved in. I have even started to control my over sensitivity. That is a whole different story!!!!!!

[rubicon]

Originally Posted by JAV0108

After going back and re-reading EVERYTHING on how this all got started I feel like I overstepped my bounds with my vent. Sorry about that, didn't mean to cause negativity. I love TV and wouldn't want to live anywhere else. Although I do not post very often and am mainly a "lurker" I am real and not a trouble maker on TOTV. Everyone is right, there are cliques everywhere and I have come so very far regarding being strong and persevering in my endeavors into all the activities I want to get involved in. I have even started to control my over sensitivity. That is a whole different story!!!!!!

I am from the Minneapolis MN area and you haven't overstepped anything. As you know the only cliques in Minnesota are the DFLers and the Republicans...the rest of Minnesota is one big happy family and very inclusive
that is why they refer to it as " being Minnesota Nice."

So from one of those Minnesota Nice people cliques by definition exclude people. I am still reeling from cliques that kept me at bay in high school.
I" I never met a person I didn't like."


The End

[angiefox10]

A clique , is an inclusive group of people who share interests, views, purposes, patterns of behavior, or ethnicity. A clique as a reference group can be either normative or comparative. ...

Everyone says it like it's a bad thing. It's not good or bad...It just is.

First I think EVERYONE KNOWS that Sky was trying to be funny with this post by now.

Regardless... My life is nothing but cliques. I have my dog group, I have my girlie girl group, I have my work group, I have my book group and so on. I doubt if everyone will fit into all if any of my "cliques". Why would you want to! I belong to a lot of "cliques" as do most of you. I'm not very good at belonging to one "clique" so don't try to make me!

Most of us have been here long enough to know who is who. Sky, Bill, Pturner are the funny ones, gracie is the gentle soul with the kind word (while she can be funny as well) , Kathi (don't know how she has her name) is the gatherer, she brings everyone together... I think you see what I mean. We all have our different personalities. We aren't going to all fit in each others groups.

It's not meant to be mean...

For example, after this post started, I reached out to several of you in a PM offering friendship. Know what??? Not one person responded. I'm not offended (to be honest, I totally understand, but that's another thread) but to my point... You clearly didn't want me in you Clique while you complained that you yourself were left out. We are all left out of a group at one time or another... Why would you even want to be in a group that would doesn't want you.

There are people on here that are trying to cause trouble. That BTW was why Gracie questioned someone identity because she caught it. Don't be fooled by the posters who come on here only when something like this gets started and takes your side... But is NEVER here when we are all getting along! They don't care about you, they are just playing with you...

Well... I've put in my 2 cents for today... after the market crash... maybe 1 cent.

Now... can we talk about that handshake????

[tippyclubb]

angiefox your words were eloquently stated and so very true.

[Pturner]

Originally Posted by ssmith

Just a quick thought, you mentioned that there are many cliques at events there in TV. Is that unusual. I guess what I mean is that I have moved often and find it takes some time to break into the crowd of regulars....not that they exclude on purpose but just don't go over board to include newbes. Is that the case there? Seems you have persevered. Also wonder if this is more prevalent if you live in a very long established neighborhood?

Hi SSmith,
My sense is that it is rare here. The other side of the story needs telling:

Shortly after we purchased in an established neighborhood (Springdale), we visited the neighborhood pool. Everyone we spoke to there was welcoming, telling us about clubs we might enjoy, etc. One couple mentioned that they were dining that evening at one of their favorite restaurants and invited us to join them!

Just yesterday I took a water aerobics class for the first time. It was crowded and hard to see the instructor. A woman who had been going to this class for four years helped show me how to do certain things if I struggled. She was so nice and assured me that she was new once too. I didn't own some optional equipment and another women told me she never uses hers anymore, so could have it. After the class, a few more women introduced themselves and welcomed me. It was amazing. I cannot wait until I can pay it forward!

And then there is the incomparable KathieI. When we first moved here she organized 2 meet and greet lunches for me. I met and have continued to meet the nicest people here.

Perhaps there are cliques here, but I haven't found them yet. We're seniors for crying out loud. Cliques are for kids. Oh wait... that was Tricks.