[Chi-Town]

Originally Posted by BK001

At 67 years old, I'm probably safer living next to a pedophile than a non-pedophile. (Not trying to make a joke although it is a good basis for one). But pedophilia is a sickness and, if given the choice, I prefer having healthy neighbors over sickos.

From what I gather pedophilia is a sickness without a cure. Sad for all.

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[NotGolfer]

Not from 1st hand knowlege BUT from what I've read...most sex offenders are good friends of a family or a family member. Having someone as a neighbor---might not be as offensive. Perhaps the incident(s) occurred in the distant past---ie. the 19 yr old with a 17 yr old or a falsely accused. I think this is a complicated matter that needs to be addressed as a case by case thing. There are worse things I'm going to be concerned of, rather than the "what if's" of who moves in the neighborhood.

[Bucco]

Originally Posted by Chatbrat

One good thing about Florida gun owners don't have to be registered--this isn't, NY, NJ, Mass. , ct and Ca.-- second amendment rights are protected here

I never realized that those diagnosed as a pedophile were gun toting people.

Have to read up on that. That makes this quite complex.

So don't take your grand kids to GUN WORLD ?

[Bucco]

Originally Posted by graciegirl

The purpose of this thread is to focus on the reality that both good and bad people live here. Young people can be good or bad. Old people can be good or bad and middle aged people can be good or bad. This is an age restricted community but some bad people live here. But mostly good people live here. I was making the point that we need to realize that this place cannot keep bad or good people out.

"I was making the point that we need to realize that this place cannot keep bad or good people out."

To this point you made as the general idea of your thread, I can think of very few places, including seminaries where this can be done. Even prisons have innocent people contained, so best just not to judge.

I moved here many years ago......much smaller population....fewer of everything....guess what......we had bad people then drinking and driving, etc. I always thought that good people far outweigh the bad people....bad people are louder maybe

[BobnBev]

Originally Posted by graciegirl

The other site reports them when they move in and shows their picture. There are probably other people who are previously convicted of bad stuff who live here too.

There is nothing we can do to keep them out or make them leave. Their rights are protected. Only kids under nineteen can be excluded. They can only visit here a total of 30 days in a year.

I really believe that we have an awful lot of good people who have never been in trouble with the law, and have always paid their bills and taken care of their responsibilities who live here. But I was born optimistic and went to a retreat once where they said it was best to try to find good in situations and people. Every once in awhile I remember to do that. Most of the time I jump to conclusions.

Jumping to conclusions is an Olympic sport in TV.

[Kenswing]

Originally Posted by BobnBev

Jumping to conclusions is an Olympic sport in TV.

At least everyone is getting their exercise.. lol

[PennBF]

It is an acceptable conclusion within the Psychological Field that there is no cure for a Pedophile or a Psychopath or Sociopath. (The difference in the last 2 is one is more genetic and the other more envioremental.) Thus you have life time registrations for Pedophile's. Take some time to think as to where is a good place for Pedophile's to hide. In a high percentage of cases the child impacted by a Pedophile attack will be harmed for life. It is a terrible attack on a child and maybe the Pedophile should be removed from society.

[lorilorilori]

From what I gather pedophilia is a sickness without a cure. Sad for all.

"It is an acceptable conclusion within the Psychological Field that there is no cure for a Pedophile or a Psychopath or Sociopath."

Drug companies have a pill for every "cure" to make $$$ and
Psychos say "no cure" to keep the money rolling in.

[dillywho]

The law on sex offenses is much too broad and vague. Case in point:

A young man in Texas got his girlfriend pregnant. He was 18, she was 16. By law, he was an adult and she was a minor. Her mother had a fit when the girl told her she was pregnant, filed charges on the guy, and tried to rescind the charges once she calmed down. Nothing doing. Not retractable according to Texas law. Until the law is changed, nothing can be done about it. He is labeled a pedophile.

Now he is a registered sex offender. He and the girl married, had their baby, had more children, and are still married. Saddest part is that he cannot be alone with minors, including his own children.

My point is that not all pedophiles or sex offenders are created equal. As for living next door to someone with a sex offense record, it might or might not be a comfortable situation. I would definitely have no problem living next door to that Texas couple.

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by dillywho

The law on sex offenses is much too broad and vague. Case in point:

A young man in Texas got his girlfriend pregnant. He was 18, she was 16. By law, he was an adult and she was a minor. Her mother had a fit when the girl told her she was pregnant, filed charges on the guy, and tried to rescind the charges once she calmed down. Nothing doing. Not retractable according to Texas law. Until the law is changed, nothing can be done about it. He is labeled a pedophile.

Now he is a registered sex offender. He and the girl married, had their baby, had more children, and are still married. Saddest part is that he cannot be alone with minors, including his own children.

My point is that not all pedophiles or sex offenders are created equal. As for living next door to someone with a sex offense record, it might or might not be a comfortable situation. I would definitely have no problem living next door to that Texas couple.

I always agree with you Dilly. It seems that the term "sex offense" is heard very often these days. I hope that what is normal and good doesn't get all misconstrued because of terminology. A man can ruin a woman's life because of a sex offense against her and a woman can ruin a man's life from accusing a man of a sex offense that didn't happen.

Who can we trust? I really like woman and think they should be believed. I really like men and think they should be believed. The men in my world have been kind and good and healthy fellows who are honest, ditto the women. Some are not. No. Some are not.

[njbchbum]

Originally Posted by BK001

You sound like a very nice person.

Thanx - I am - if I do say so myself!

I gave up judging people in Sept 1966 when a college roomie commented to one of my comments - "Who are you to judge?" I thank Judy P for that wake up call!

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by njbchbum

Thanx - I am - if I do say so myself!

I gave up judging people in Sept 1966 when a college roomie commented to one of my comments - "Who are you to judge?" I thank Judy P for that wake up call!

Danged nice. AND FUNNY. And practical...…..and principled and responsible. And just the right age.

[njbchbum]

Originally Posted by graciegirl

Danged nice. AND FUNNY. And practical...…..and principled and responsible. And just the right age.

Birds of our feather flock together, Gracie!

[Nucky]

There, in fact, is a permanent cure to these problems that some people have. Use your imagination. Simple and cheap too!

[BK001]

Originally Posted by Nucky

There, in fact, is a permanent cure to these problems that some people have. Use your imagination. Simple and cheap too!

Along these lines, there is a fabulous movie (Golden Globe and Emmy-winning) from 1995, called CITIZEN X with Donald Sutherland, Stephen Rea and Max von Sydow. You can watch it for free on youtube:

Citizen X (1995) HD - YouTube

True story of a serial killer/necrophiliac. Interesting to see how the Russians dealt with this individual. A movie I could watch again every couple of years.