[cmj1210]

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[cmj1210]

Originally Posted by DianeM

It may be sexist but it's very honest. Sorry but more men golf than women.



I met one woman yesterday in Publix that we got to chatting while standing on line and she said can't wait till he croaks to get out of here. Yes that's very harsh and if she really feels that way she should just get divorced.





Went to another club meeting yesterday morning and a woman I had never met told me that she's thinking about the future after her husband passes and knows that she will not stay here.



This is not the land of sunshine and lollipops. A lot of people are miserable having left their past. Many are just stuck here at least for now. It is a fact of life.

Well I can tell you that I am excited about moving down full time. I am not extremely active right now due to work & i do not play golf but I have all intentions of learning. My husband & I have had discussions if one of us got sick we would sell our house in NY immediately & move down right away. The Villages is not for everyone & it is also what you put into it to make it a wonderful place to live. There are so many activities you could pick up & learn which I plan on doing. It's all about the lifestyle.

[Barefoot]

Originally Posted by DianeM

This is not the land of sunshine and lollipops. A lot of people are miserable having left their past.

I agree, it's not the land of sunshine and lollipops, and there is no guarantee that you will find The Villages a magical place to live.
If you bring problems to TV with you, they will still be problems here.
Most residents adore The Villages. We do - it's an amazing place to live.
A small percentage aren't happy here for a myriad of reasons. TV doesn't suit everyone.
I'd guess that most retirees move to Florida to get away from snow, ice and inclement weather.
However, many retirees move to Texas for the same reason, and I bet there are some exciting retirement communities there.
So be careful of why you're moving, what you're leaving behind, and what you hope to achieve by moving to Florida.

[DianeM]

Originally Posted by jnieman

You seem not to like it here. Please tell us what you don't like. Maybe some of us have some solutions for you. A person is free to live anywhere they like so if I didn't like where I was living I woudn't stay living there. Homes here sell very well so it should be pretty easy.

This thread has nothing to do with me. This is where my stuff is and that's just the way it is. I was commenting to the person who really doesn't want to move here and is being coerced into it by her husband. She needs to have some fact too.

[DianeM]

Originally Posted by cmj1210

Well I can tell you that I am excited about moving down full time. I am not extremely right now due to work &I do not play golf but I have all intentions of learning. My husband & I have had discussions if one of us got sick we would sell our house in NY immediately & move down right away. The Villages is not for everyone & it is also what you put into it to make it a wonderful place to live. There are so many activities you could pick up & learn which I plan on doing. It's all about the lifestyle.

This thread has nothing to do with me. The original poster is concerned because she feels she is being coerced into doing something she does not want to do. Everyone telling her that it's Nirvana is wrong. If she doesn't want to be here, she will not be contented no matter how much golf there is.

[JoMar]

Originally Posted by DianeM

This thread has nothing to do with me. The original poster is concerned because she feels she is being coerced into doing something she does not want to do. Everyone telling her that it's Nirvana is wrong. If she doesn't want to be here, she will not be contented no matter how much golf there is.

Do I have this right....if the husband wants to move here and she doesn't she is coerced. If she wants to stay and the husband doesn't, isn't he being coerced or is it just the woman that can be coerced....just asking. There must a compromise here someplace, rent for a period of time....maybe she comes for 3 months and he stays for 6 and she stays for 6 up north and he stays for 3.....why does it have to be either or?

[Junior]

Nice find

[angiefox10]

I know shocking!


Diane would be right in one instance.... I only golf once a week as a sub. That's because I'm so busy doing other things in The Villages, I don't have time to golf a lot! I have taken classes at the Lifelong Learning College, I go to lunch with my friends, I have hobbies, I belong to clubs and am active in charity work. I LOVE the lifestyle here and have no intention of leaving if my husband should die (croak) before me. I have backed out of many activities as I simply don't have the time to do them all....

I am so happy I moved here.... I LOVE it here!!!! It was the best decision I have made in my life.

It may just be the company I keep, but the people I know feel the same as I do about living here. We all do different things and most of us aren't as active in golf as our husbands... We have our own interests!

I agree with most of the posts.... rent for awhile and see how you like it. I'm sure it's not for everyone... It certainly is for me!

*livinghappyinthevillages

[Fraugoofy]

I think people can be miserable no matter where they live. Please don't move to TV and bring your misery with you...

[T-325]

I was always told you bring your happiness with you (and vice a versa)

[RickeyD]

Originally Posted by sunnyatlast

I see exactly the opposite from our widowed neighbor women-friends. When their husbands finally died after the wife practically lived in the hospital and hospice, watching them die slowly of cancer or whatever, they finally got a chance to LIVE and spend some of the money they'd worked to save.

I'm thinking of four women who actually got younger and more fit, slim and trim by being active in golf, wonderful volunteer jobs that are interesting and filled with enthusiastic people, and by eventually meeting a new mate whom they wisely do not marry and do not live with--too complicated and tied down.

They are finally liberated in a place where weather permits them to be outside every single day/evening, where it is safe to walk around and be out and about on the golf cart. That cannot be said about most cities of this size across the nation.

So the point is, hope your hubby dies a quick death so you won't need to watch him die. Then, you can live your life the way you want, squander his and your hard earned savings and party till dawn, screw any guy willing to screw you with no commitment. What a terrible way to perceive men, life and lifetime relationships.

[Barefoot]

Originally Posted by RickeyD

So the point is, hope your hubby dies a quick death so you won't need to watch him die. Then, you can live your life the way you want, squander his and your hard earned savings and party till dawn, screw any guy willing to screw you with no commitment. What a terrible way to perceive men, life and lifetime relationships.

None of us want our husbands to die a quick death.

[asianthree]

So back to topic. If you can buy house have him come for as much he wants. You come in and out as you like staying with family and enjoying the job that you have. If in fact he finds that this is not what he wants either he can always go back to your original home. Or if you find when you visit that you love the place then you can stay. I don't think any of us can tell you if you're going to be happy or not happy. I think the only way that you will know is to come for a lengthy visit. Then again there are some who cannot be without their spouse for long periods of time so this also may be difficult for both of you. We will be apart for 6 to 8 months out of the year. For us that is not a problem since both of us traveled extensively during our lives. You will find the people here are either very positive were very negative. Try not to let some of us influence you one way or the other. See for yourself and then work things out

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by asianthree

So back to topic. If you can buy house have him come for as much he wants. You come in and out as you like staying with family and enjoying the job that you have. If in fact he finds that this is not what he wants either he can always go back to your original home. Or if you find when you visit that you love the place then you can stay. I don't think any of us can tell you if you're going to be happy or not happy. I think the only way that you will know is to come for a lengthy visit. Then again there are some who cannot be without their spouse for long periods of time so this also may be difficult for both of you. We will be apart for 6 to 8 months out of the year. For us that is not a problem since both of us traveled extensively during our lives. You will find the people here are either very positive were very negative. Try not to let some of us influence you one way or the other. See for yourself and then work things out

What she said.

There is an atmosphere here of what we are that you have to experience for awhile to understand. We are a mix of cultures and ages but by voting numbers pretty traditional, if you can trust voting numbers. We have sugar AND spice, but I find that most people I know would help you readily if you needed it, truly care about others, have always paid their bills, stayed within the law and mowed their grass. (MOST of them) Most people don't talk about money or politics but readily laugh at almost any joke and have lived long enough to have seen plenty...which to me really matters.

I hope you find your happy place.

The Villages is the dream I didn't know I had.

[RickeyD]

Originally Posted by Barefoot

That is an ugly spin to put on Sunny's positive post. That isn't at all what she said!
I sincerely doubt any of us want our husbands to die a quick death.

It is exactly what she said. My comprehension on this post is accurate and unfortunately very disturbing, it wasn't something I was expecting to read early in the morning, very very disturbing.