[graciegirl]

Most of us feel the same. The loss of a spouse is the saddest, most awful thing we can imagine,

But living will continue, for whoever is left. I read that she meant that here is a good place to be with many in our shoes and things to do to try to continue with life.

I think to really think about those not what if's but when if's is pretty frightening and emotional. I know SunnyatLast personally and I know this. She loves her husband dearly and is very proud of him and of their family.

If you read that she feels otherwise it is completely incorrect.

You are a dear good person and she is a dear good person.

Death is damn scary. Ours, or worse, the one we love above all others.

[RickeyD]

Originally Posted by graciegirl

Most of us feel the same. The loss of a spouse is the saddest, most awful thing we can imagine,



But living will continue, for whoever is left. I read that she meant that here is a good place to be with many in our shoes and things to do to try to continue with life.



I think to really think about those not what if's but when if's is pretty frightening and emotional. I know SunnyatLast personally and I know this. She loves her husband dearly and is very proud of him and of their family.



If you read that she feels otherwise it is completely incorrect.



You are a dear good person and she is a dear good person.



Death is damn scary. Ours, or worse, the one we love above all others.

I'm sure SunnyatLast is a good person. I know she was relating the feelings of her friends, not herself. Notwithstanding, the general feeling I got was one of "you go girl" go live your life the way you want and don't let anything or anyone get in your way. I get it. It simply doesn't agree with my Roman Catholic upbringing of self sacrifice, and loyalty whether it's earned or not. What you have earned on this earth in terms of self sacrifice will be rewarded later... I hope this explains my thoughts and puts it to rest.

[graciegirl]

Originally Posted by RickeyD

I'm sure SunnyatLast is a good person. I know she was relating the feelings of her friends, not herself. Notwithstanding, the general feeling I got was one of "you go girl" go live your life the way you want and don't let anything or anyone get in your way. I get it. It simply doesn't agree with my Roman Catholic upbringing of self sacrifice, and loyalty whether it's earned or not. What you have earned on this earth in terms of self sacrifice will be rewarded later... I hope this explains my thoughts and puts it to rest.

Just as I have known from the very first time you posted. You are someone I respect and LIKE a LOT. Hugs to you Rickey D. And I am not sure whether you are a girl or a guy, but this is a virtuous but very big hug.

[RickeyD]

Originally Posted by graciegirl

Just as I have known from the very first time you posted. You are someone I respect and LIKE a LOT. Hugs to you Rickey D. And I am not sure whether you are a girl or a guy, but this is a virtuous but very big hug.

Back at ya !

[Villager Joyce]

When we wake up every morning, we choose if we are going to have a good day. We decide. I used to work for an organization who taught independent living skills to the visually impaired and blind. Clients were from birth to 92. One teenager had been blind since birth. Her sister had a disease that caused her to be in constant pain. When talking about her life being blind, she stated she is in public school with her sighted peers. She is going to go to college with her sighted peers. It is her sister who can't live because of pain. Off subject and not a wordsmith, but hopefully you will get my point.

[Fredwms]

Originally Posted by mfroggie

So we visited there on vacation and he is so focused now on buying a house as a 2nd residence at least for now and renting it out part of the year. I am sure this is nothing new and there are probably a lot of people doing this. I have many questions therefore I decided to join this site. We live in Texas, I have lived here nearly all my life and I am not ready to give up my Texas citizenship, besides I still have a lot of working years ahead of me but he is about ready to retire. I hope to meet some very nice folks here and get a lot of my questions answered so we don't make any missteps during our endeavors. I am so glad I found this place!

We are working diligently on leaving California and moving to TV this year. It is a tough decision, especially leaving kids and grandkids here in California. Living in California is expensive, we are having a multi-year drought and taxes are excessive. Playing golf is a luxury here due to high green fees...and we love to play golf! When we heard "free golf for life" in TV we agreed that it is time for us to consider our own needs and seek a change while we are still able to maintain an active lifestyle. Life is too short to simply exist from day to day while life passes you by. On the plus side we cannot wait to visit TV for a week in September to find a place to rent for at least a year. Then comes a coast-to-coast major move that I wish was over. The thought of what we will have once we get there keeps us motivated to move forward with our plans. It's TV or bust for us!

[Dynsol]

Originally Posted by mfroggie

So we visited there on vacation and he is so focused now on buying a house as a 2nd residence at least for now and renting it out part of the year. I am sure this is nothing new and there are probably a lot of people doing this. I have many questions therefore I decided to join this site. We live in Texas, I have lived here nearly all my life and I am not ready to give up my Texas citizenship, besides I still have a lot of working years ahead of me but he is about ready to retire. I hope to meet some very nice folks here and get a lot of my questions answered so we don't make any missteps during our endeavors. I am so glad I found this place!

Do NOT Hesitate...Living here will be the best decision of your life!!!

[DianeM]

Originally Posted by RickeyD

I'm sure SunnyatLast is a good person. I know she was relating the feelings of her friends, not herself. Notwithstanding, the general feeling I got was one of "you go girl" go live your life the way you want and don't let anything or anyone get in your way. I get it. It simply doesn't agree with my Roman Catholic upbringing of self sacrifice, and loyalty whether it's earned or not. What you have earned on this earth in terms of self sacrifice will be rewarded later... I hope this explains my thoughts and puts it to rest.

I never said anything about "you go girl" or anything like that. I said that I know four women who have said to me when their husbands pass, they are out of here. I may not approve with that philosophy but I merely said it to point out to the poster that not everyone thinks this is the land of milk and honey. You can get off your soapbox now.

[Villager Joyce]

Originally Posted by Fredwms

We are working diligently on leaving California and moving to TV this year. It is a tough decision, especially leaving kids and grandkids here in California. Living in California is expensive, we are having a multi-year drought and taxes are excessive. Playing golf is a luxury here due to high green fees...and we love to play golf! When we heard "free golf for life" in TV we agreed that it is time for us to consider our own needs and seek a change while we are still able to maintain an active lifestyle. Life is too short to simply exist from day to day while life passes you by. On the plus side we cannot wait to visit TV for a week in September to find a place to rent for at least a year. Then comes a coast-to-coast major move that I wish was over. The thought of what we will have once we get there keeps us motivated to move forward with our plans. It's TV or bust for us!

Let us know when you get here so we can rally up at one Of the squares.

[graciegirl]

Has anyone noticed that the person who started the thread has not commented since?????

[cmj1210]

Originally Posted by DianeM

I never said anything about "you go girl" or anything like that. I said that I know four women who have said to me when their husbands pass, they are out of here. I may not approve with that philosophy but I merely said it to point out to the poster that not everyone thinks this is the land of milk and honey. You can get off your soapbox now.

I think everyone needs to chill & get back to the subject at hand. And yes Gracie I too noticed she hasn't posted any more either. [emoji106]🏻

[RickeyD]

Originally Posted by DianeM

I never said anything about "you go girl" or anything like that. I said that I know four women who have said to me when their husbands pass, they are out of here. I may not approve with that philosophy but I merely said it to point out to the poster that not everyone thinks this is the land of milk and honey. You can get off your soapbox now.

OK fine, I'm off now. It was too lonely up there anyway. [emoji56]

[Dr Winston O Boogie jr]

Supposedly there are ten single women to every single man here. Although I've always thought that was a bit of an exaggeration it does demonstrate that there are plenty of women here and plenty of things for women to do.

[need2no]

great place to visit, would follow in your footprints but wife has anti-cult pains in some villages we visited. lack of privacy is another factor to consider. housing prices at this time are very extreme and sooner or later the artificial market momentum will fall, leaving us holding the bag for 2 properties. the lifestyle is nice and unique but its only a matter of time when demographics, interest rates or wall st affect real-estate stability as in the past. some of the self appointed neighborhood mayors may disagree, but all is well anyways

[need2no]

the 10 -1 ratio theory is not accurate. sooner or later you realize there are 1 out of 150 you would ask out. (only kidding)