[Easyrider]

Originally Posted by floridanative17 View Post
I Am 48, I am a retired U.S. Army Combat Veteran, and I am a property owner in The Villages for the last 6 years; and I receive challenges daily when I visit my local Rec Center and Pool, but I always present my Villages ID and then receive inquiries in regards to my residential status. Regardless of my appearance, I am retired Villages homeowner. That said, I am tired of the constant queries. I bought here as a retiree due to the high resale value and the high neighborhood upkeep. My property has increasing value and I aim to maintain this; so, seriously, why the age bias?

Originally Posted by Lynn222

I think that if this is your biggest life problem, you are fortunate...I'm just sayin.

Very well said Lynn22.......and it pretty much says it all....A lot of us older folks are also combat war veterans too because of a little thing called the draft and the Vietnam War, not as a career volunteer....I for one served 4 full years with no benefits now, but then also worked another 36 years too paying lots of taxes and SSI to make it to retirement. Not to worry floridanative17 when you get older the ID checks will stop....sounds like no age bias to me, just the opposite that we want to be treated like we are ?? maybe a little special. I for one was already in the service while you were still in diapers...so we do look a bit older since we actually are, be thankful you look your age and try to Have A Happy day!

[jbdlfan]

FN17, I want to also thank you for your service and to be quite honest, you've earned the right to live anywhere in this country you please. As a fellow 40 something living here with my spouse, we have not experienced too much of the issues you've had. Our neighbors are very nice this time and seem to enjoy younger faces around. Our children and grandchildren are here almost every week and they love seeing them romp in the yard. I actually have seen more of it here on TOTV than in person. Much of that senior elitist "stuff." Don't let it bother you so much, you have the last laugh. You get to watch your home triple in value and enjoy the amenities for the next 40 years.

[Toscana]

I bought a CYV here two years ago when I was 40. I have experienced the same attitude a few times, but I must say that I do not feel that it is the norm. 95% of the people are all very nice and most times you get back what you give. In any situation you will always have the few that make something difficult. I just smile and keep moving!

Semper Fi!

[TheCollierCpl]

Originally Posted by floridanative17

I Am 48, I am a retired U.S. Army Combat Veteran, and I am a property owner in The Villages for the last 6 years; and I receive challenges daily when I visit my local Rec Center and Pool, but I always present my Villages ID and then receive inquiries in regards to my residential status. Regardless of my appearance, I am retired Villages homeowner. That said, I am tired of the constant queries. I bought here as a retiree due to the high resale value and the high neighborhood upkeep. My property has increasing value and I aim to maintain this; so, seriously, why the age bias?

Hi, we definately have no age bias, and thank you for your service. However, we are very curious. We thought at least one person of a "cole" had to be 55 or older. Is that not true?

[graciegirl]

Being young is such a positive, just as being healthy is or being rich or being handsome or beautiful.

One should expect some jealousy, so one should always act gracious in the face of it.

If one is 70 and playing bridge at a table with 90 year olds and comments are made about how young ones hands look one should not take offense, smile, and continue to count the trump not played.

If one is at a pool and one is looking purty good in a bathing suit and one is 62 and not insured, one should not flirt with the husband of an 80 year old who was a lady wrestler.

If one is 60 and gets twenty yards more out of a nine iron, and ones playing partners are in their eighties, one should overlook being called a kid.

One should not whine about people noticing that one is beautiful, young or advantaged. One should not say poor me, I am young and people are making comments about it. This is for second graders who skip to the third grade too.

Miss Manners.

[PaPaLarry]

Originally Posted by graciegirl

Being young is such a positive, just as being healthy is or being rich.

One should expect some jealousy, so one should always act gracious in the face of it.

If one is 70 and playing bridge at a table with 90 year olds and comments are made about how nice ones hands look one should not take offense, smile, and continue to count the cards.

If one is 60 and gets twenty yards more out of a nine iron, and ones playing partners are in their eighties, one should overlook being called a kid.

One should not whine about people noticing that one is beautiful, young or advantaged. One should not say poor me, I am young and people are making comments about it. This is for second graders who skip to the third grade too.

Miss Manners.

Gracie, so elegantly said. Hip Hip Hooray

[TOMCAT]

When I went back to work "full time" again, after my child rearing years, I was 43. My boss and co-workers thought I was in my late 30's. It's a compliment, but now that I am older, maybe I do look my age. Don't know anymore. No one has been saying I look younger anymore! Oh well!!!

[nitehawk]

Originally Posted by floridanative17

I Am 48, I am a retired U.S. Army Combat Veteran, and I am a property owner in The Villages for the last 6 years; and I receive challenges daily when I visit my local Rec Center and Pool, but I always present my Villages ID and then receive inquiries in regards to my residential status. Regardless of my appearance, I am retired Villages homeowner. That said, I am tired of the constant queries. I bought here as a retiree due to the high resale value and the high neighborhood upkeep. My property has increasing value and I aim to maintain this; so, seriously, why the age bias?

So you bought her when you were 42 - if i bought in TV at the age of 42 i would have sought some professional help - at that age i had nothing in common with 60 year old people -- many civil servants do not realize that they have become institutionalized, and find it hard to exist in the outside world. "TV is not the outside world". Dont worry if you live in a barn you will eventually smell like a horse. --- yes there is a age bias- my 31 year old sweetie can verify that

[manaboutown]

Originally Posted by graciegirl

Being young is such a positive, just as being healthy is or being rich.

One should expect some jealousy, so one should always act gracious in the face of it.

If one is 70 and playing bridge at a table with 90 year olds and comments are made about how nice ones hands look one should not take offense, smile, and continue to count the cards.

If one is 60 and gets twenty yards more out of a nine iron, and ones playing partners are in their eighties, one should overlook being called a kid.

One should not whine about people noticing that one is beautiful, young or advantaged. One should not say poor me, I am young and people are making comments about it. This is for second graders who skip to the third grade too.

Miss Manners.

Gracie, I believe I can safely say that everyone enjoys and appreciates a sincere compliment. "Gee, you don't look your age!", "You are so smart!", "How do you stay in such terrific shape?", etc.

What folks do not appreciate are mean spirited, snide comments and disparaging remarks. "What are YOU doing here?", "You are too young to be here.", "You don't belong here." and so on.

More frequently received are "the looks" that are the body language/facial expression equivalents of the above noted remarks.

It boils down to this. Are the looks/comments expressions of appreciation and admiration or are they manifestations of envy and resentment, two ugly character defects?

This behavior may be inherent since humans are at some level competitive with one another.