[Villages PL]

Originally Posted by Bogie Shooter

Contact the Administrator of that other board and express your concerns. Most likely they will ban the poster from their board.
No reason for you to leave TOTV.

Dittos.

[pivo]

Why be concerned about comments on topix .
Just read our comments on totv and ignore other sites

[Bucco]

Originally Posted by pivo

Why be concerned about comments on topix .
Just read our comments on totv and ignore other sites

I do not want to beat this to death, but for the most part......the comments on the other sites are from people who POST RIGHT HERE ON TOTV...not, in most cases different people.

Gracie, I would bet is stuck on who does she trust. You cannot separate these posts...same folks who are on here.

Some, I believe I have figured out..based on dates, and comments...but understand that those posters THERE are posters HERE.

[Love2cruise]

Originally Posted by Golfingnut

I finally found the topic. WOW I must say, I want GG's autograph. GG your doing it right. There have been posters on TOTV that would fit the description on topic, BUT ITS NOT YOU. The way I read that long thread is it's only one person that feels you peed in her wheatees. There are lots of folks on here that could say they are leaving and the only reply would be. GOODBYE. Count yourself loved and don't you go no where.

Lou

P.S. I want to attend your next tea.

Ditto that! Please don't let them win. We need your wisdom, advice and all the valuable information you have provided me and the rest of us.

[Taltarzac725]

Originally Posted by Carla B

I feel so bad that this has happened to you, Gracie. I hadn't heard of Topix before but found the site and read the inane comments directed at you and a few other TOTV members. Unfortunately, it is obvious that the Topix forum standards are very low. I hope you will stay. You have many friends here.

I looked at Topix too. Waste of 20 minutes looking at five years of posts about TOTV. Hope you reconsider and stay on TOTV GracieGirl.

[Golfingnut]

Originally Posted by Bucco

I do not want to beat this to death, but for the most part......the comments on the other sites are from people who POST RIGHT HERE ON TOTV...not, in most cases different people.

Gracie, I would bet is stuck on who does she trust. You cannot separate these posts...same folks who are on here.

Some, I believe I have figured out..based on dates, and comments...but understand that those posters THERE are posters HERE.

I doubt she is too worried, we all should be lucky enough to have as many friends as Gracie, Helen and Sweety.

[GPGuar]

WOW>>> 13 pages of quotes in less than 24 hours ALL POSITIVE, what does that tell you Gracie? Don't let the bad guys win, stay with us.

[pivo]

Bucco---Wow I would never believe posters from here would be posting on other
sites bad mouthing our own-so called
But for Gracie this kind of sickness is what I call it happens all over in all clubs you
always have a few that are envious, jealous, what have you .
But for Gracie you should look at it as you are a much better person and don't drop off this site because of some low life.
Take a few days off with your hubby and I don't know who Helene is and enjoy your
friends and then come back to all the rest off your friends
Remember Gracie you are not hurting the people who wrote about you , I haven't read it but you are hurting all the friends you made over the years on totv you don't really want to do that. Sign back on in a couple of days, Bless you ad your family

[jhrc4]

I think this has been a learning exercise for many of us, in lot's of different ways.

The lesson to be learned here is stay off TOPIX a waste of time and can if a person takes the abusive comments seriously can do a lot of damage.

However with that said look at it this way " Gracie " has many, many friends here in the Villages, and I am certain life long friends elsewhere.

The Gang here your friends all support you staying on TOTV...Do The Right Thing .

[Bucco]

Originally Posted by pivo

Bucco---Wow I would never believe posters from here would be posting on other
sites bad mouthing our own-so called
But for Gracie this kind of sickness is what I call it happens all over in all clubs you
always have a few that are envious, jealous, what have you .
But for Gracie you should look at it as you are a much better person and don't drop off this site because of some low life.
Take a few days off with your hubby and I don't know who Helene is and enjoy your
friends and then come back to all the rest off your friends
Remember Gracie you are not hurting the people who wrote about you , I haven't read it but you are hurting all the friends you made over the years on totv you don't really want to do that. Sign back on in a couple of days, Bless you ad your family

I understand not wanting to believe it but it is true. They quote stats from this board.....talk about discussions, and I have been checking that place for a few years as I said before as it was a place for those who were thrown off here and could not get back......you can almost read and tell who it is. Recently, they went to Gracies profile and got stats like last posted etc. They are posters from here.......and Gracie understands how it works....BUT now she has no idea whom to trust..who would be here talking to her and then go there and blast away. Sad world, but its true

Listen........lots of things have happened. Do not be so trusting on any site.......everyone on this site does not live, visit or care about The Villages.

[buggyone]

Originally Posted by Bucco

I understand not wanting to believe it but it is true. They quote stats from this board.....talk about discussions, and I have been checking that place for a few years as I said before as it was a place for those who were thrown off here and could not get back......you can almost read and tell who it is. Recently, they went to Gracies profile and got stats like last posted etc. They are posters from here.......and Gracie understands how it works....BUT now she has no idea whom to trust..who would be here talking to her and then go there and blast away. Sad world, but its true

Listen........lots of things have happened. Do not be so trusting on any site.......everyone on this site does not live, visit or care about The Villages.

I had never heard of Topix until a couple of days ago. I just read several pages of The Villages forum on it and it was sickening to see how mean spirited some people can be. It actually sounded like a high school clique was gossiping about an unpopular person. Very juvenile -and hateful.

I have had disagreements regarding viewpoints with several posters but never would I think they would write vile things about me on an alternate forum just as I would not do to them. We are adults here - even though some actions sure do not seem that way.

[JourneyOfLife]

Originally Posted by dillywho

That has GOT to be the worst person ever! How could anyone accept an invitation to someone's home and then turn around and trash them? UNBELIEVABLE!!! Gracie and her entire family are people who rarely come along in a lifetime and I am PROUD to call them friends.

I sincerely hope that Gracie will heal soon and return to here. This forum will never be the same without her! So many will never have the privilege of her insight, humor, and compassion if she leaves.

Many hugs to you, Gracie!

That part of your post that I put in bold print is the thing I found really disturbing.

I am dumbfounded, I can't fathom a purpose or reason someone would do something like that.

Anyone that would even notice this forum has to be in an age range of 55 to 80.

[Bucco]

Originally Posted by buggyone

I had never heard of Topix until a couple of days ago. I just read several pages of The Villages forum on it and it was sickening to see how mean spirited some people can be. It actually sounded like a high school clique was gossiping about an unpopular person. Very juvenile -and hateful.

I have had disagreements regarding viewpoints with several posters but never would I think they would write vile things about me on an alternate forum just as I would not do to them. We are adults here - even though some actions sure do not seem that way.

I have gotten it, RICHIELION has gotten it.....and a few others. Gracie caught the brunt of it for sure, and as much as I was outa here, I am waiting until she is back in the saddle again on here. Her trust in nature has to be skewed right now.

Actually, we have a poster who is on a multiple ID on this board who used to post there using his real first name.....last time I was mentioned as a bad buy by name on there was when folks were upset with me for pointing out how to recognize flamers. I have been called names there when I disagree with certain people. I am not the most diplomatic person around but disagreeing is not the same as mean and nasty (a few of the words said about me over there)

But this is not about me.......getting Gracie back here and comfy is important...they overdid it with her...and they are still here READING THIS....probably enjoying all of it, but getting her back is important as well as just plain cautioning folks about any board...ANY board. I KNOW factually of a few posters on that Topix site who post quite a bit on here and back in 2008, many of those who went to that site were using the same name there as here. Now, they appear to be more devious and I hope this public airing of this will make them a bit more cautious because in some cases, the "disguise" is not even good. Has taught me, as well as hardened me, over the years to find that on line folks can have so many different personalities.

There appears to be an effort underway to erase what they can...I know of a post from someone who is still on here that cited our TOTV folks as having driven off a few folks and they mentioned them by name....it was not true as I was one who was mentioned in that post. Cannot find it now so assume a bit of housecleaning underway. GOOD......airing this is good

[ilovetv]

Originally Posted by buggyone

I had never heard of Topix until a couple of days ago. I just read several pages of The Villages forum on it and it was sickening to see how mean spirited some people can be. It actually sounded like a high school clique was gossiping about an unpopular person. Very juvenile -and hateful.

I have had disagreements regarding viewpoints with several posters but never would I think they would write vile things about me on an alternate forum just as I would not do to them. We are adults here - even though some actions sure do not seem that way.

What I saw there looked like an obsession with one or two posters. I would be wary of stalkers who might be mentally il and obsessed with their jihad against this board, popular posters here, or both.

Some of what was posted there looks libelous, too.

[Tom Hannon]

Originally Posted by Golfingnut

I would love to see a FOR TOTV LOVERS forum that you could only join by showing up at Crispers and signing up in person. It would be a wonderful forum for those of us that wish to see everyone happy. When you put a face and a name with the ID, folks are more civil to one another.

So, I vote for a Gracie Girl Forum.

You have my vote