Talk of The Villages Florida - Rentals, Entertainment & More
Talk of The Villages Florida - Rentals, Entertainment & More
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Be careful of your definition of successful....You are already going through the thought process of what would be the best decision...i.e. successful outcome. That will guide your success. And remember, part of the equation is how you do.. This isn't about turning back the clock, this is about making the time as pleasant and rewarding as possible. I hope I haven't overstepped my bounds. Hugs to you during this decision. I know it is tough.
BTW: Senior Citizen has quite a bit of insight. Perhaps pm her for specific suggestions. |
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Good sound advice by all. Perhaps renting your home here in TV and moving back home to be with your family is an option. That way your decision is not final and if you decide to return you have your home to come back to. The answer will come to you...you will know what to do.
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I am unbelieveably touched by the outpouring of help from all of you during this long night. |
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We do have a lot of help and support here in TV, but it is all paid help and support. If we go to be close to one of our children, I still expect to have paid help but the smiles and hugs of our children and grandchildren are priceless and much needed now. By the way, there is one thing I have not mentioned throughout all of this - my husband would be thrilled out of his mind to be near one of our children. He would move his weakened body out of his hospital bed with every bit of strength he could muster and head straight for the car today. |
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I will keep you in my thoughts. Sounds you already know the answer.
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Yes, I think I do too
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I can only reply that I am so sorry you are feeling conflicted with your situation and hope you find the answer within yourself somewhere. And I hope you will have an easy transition. I am young yet, but widowed, and have contemplated what I would do when I can no longer care for myself. I plan to move to a continuum of care facility as I have dealt with a parent who needed constant attention with dementia. I don't wish to be a burden to my child who works full time and has her own family. So this was the best decision for me. Perhaps as the time draws near I may change my mind, but it seems a prudent solution for now. Would an assisted living facility in TV be an option for you? Then you could remain here essentially... I believe that when the time comes, you will make the best decision for yourself and your family. I wish you peace and comfort.
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It sounds like you are an exhausted care-giver, which makes me think it is time to change your circumstances to the next level of support in care-giving, perhaps a flexible assisted living situation that makes it easier on everyone. Also, maybe there are caregiver support groups that can help. You can design your next stage of life to be rewarding, supportive, and full of new friends and adventures. You can try out different choices - and you can change your mind if something doesn't work out. Try to visualize what daily life would be like - the support, activities, weather, emotional feel, and "go for it". I do wish you well.
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You may have heard this saying before - sometimes when life's circumstances feel very confining, it's a precursor to a transformation to the next stage in life -
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